(Closed) Falling out of touch — still invited?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@abbie017:  I would try one more time to reschedule dinner. If she flakes, doesn’t reply– you def don’t have to invite her. It’s frustrating but at the end of the day, you want everyone there to celebrate your wedding/marriage, and she hasn’t been in the past few months. Hope this helps!

Post # 4
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2716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would still invite her.  Maybe she has been really busy.  I’ve definitely lost touch with friends for 3+ months.  Sometimes life just gets in the way.  I would use the wedding as a good way to rekindle the friendship. 

FWIW, I had people at my wedding that I hadn’t seen or talked to in months.  After college, I moved away and so did a lot of my friends so we just couldn’t get together like we used to.  And I’m not big on FB or talking on the phone so we only see each other if we happen to be in the same town.  But they are still my friends and I still like to hang out with them (even if it’s not oftern ) and I still wanted them at my wedding and they still came!

Post # 6
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3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

IMO 3 months isn’t really that long to go without contact with someone.  That sucks that she didn’t get back with you, but she might really be busy.  I think since you already sent her a save the date you need to send her an invitation.  500-1000 miles is a long way to travel just to drink free booze.  I think people that come to the wedding will do so because they genuinely want to celebrate with you.  Good luck!

Post # 7
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569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

eeekk.. if you feel like she wont be there happy because of your wedding and only because of the free booze, then i’d say dont invite her.. however that’s your perception, she may  be busy and may be trully happy for you and your wedding.. who knowss.. anyways you could apply my Fiance “rule” if i=you havent talked to a friend in 1 year you shouldnt invite them to your wedding… As of my take on this, i am inviting friends i am no longer close to but would still love to have them join in the celebration of our wedding.. afterall, friendship is not really define by how many times we hang out… GL!

 

Post # 9
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3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@abbie017:  Oh!  My bad lol.  I still think you need to invite her because she received a save-the-date

Post # 10
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2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You sent her a save the date- you have to invite her. To not do so would be incredibly rude. If you were concerned she’d just come for the free booze then you should not have sent her a save the date. 

Post # 12
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1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You sent her a save the date, so unless there was a falling out, invite her. It’s the right thing to do. COntact her again… say you’d love to get together before the big day to chat. Hopefully she’ll be receptive and that’ll make things less awkward.

Post # 13
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

STD = invite

Sorry, Charlie! I agree that you should give one last-ditch effort to hang out before the wedding, but know that it still might not happen.

Post # 14
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688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree you should send an invite because its the right thing to do, but maybe because she’s so “busy” she won’t bother to attend? 

Post # 15
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327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree that if you sent STD, you have to invite her.  

Post # 16
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@abbie017:  It’s only been 3 months, you already sent her the STD, I say invite her. I would be offended if I was just genuinely busy dealing with things in my life for a few months and a friend suddenly didn’t invite me to her wedding over it.

Lives get busy, things get hectic and stuff happens that people have to deal with. # months is such a short amount of time to be considering uninviting her. I’m of the camp that a STD is simply a promise of invitation to come.

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