Post # 1
We recently had our first and only pregnancy scare of our relationship/marriage. We aren’t TTC and I am still on the pill but I was having all the symptoms a few weeks ago and then came down with a virus which included regular morning sickness. Sure enough the husband was freaking out ‘can you be sick in the evenings too please?’. Helpful.
I was over a week late on my pills ‘fake AF’…. then today it arrives. Yayy I should say…. but I am gutted. I didn’t realise how emotionally ready I was for a baby until this. I feel like someone who is TTC and AF turns up… and your gutted and normally there is a new month of TTC and a new chance but for me we aren’t trying, and won’t be. In fact husband is now super nervous and wants to go back to pre-wedding double dutch (condoms+pill). I’m gutted. I feel like my only chance is gone and I am so aware now of how emotionally ready I am.
This sucks. I need a hug.
Do i tell the husband how I feel, or let it pass as I know he isn’t ready and we wont be TTC for a while. It’ll be recycling the same old conversations.
Post # 3
i think maybe have a chat with your husband, be open and honest with him. Ask him what his reservations are and maybe together you can agree to a timelime.
Post # 4
Darling Husband was super nervous about being a daddy, so we read some parenting books, and that seemed to calm his nerves! We also had a timeline (January 2013 to TTC), but that got moved up because I had to get my IUD taken out, and I didn’t want to take birth control for just a few months.
Good luck! I hope you can at least get a timeline!
Post # 5
I’m sorry. I would definetly talk to your husband. This happened to us almost 2yrs ago and I was very upset and cried. I talked to Darling Husband about it and found out he was feeling the same way, but he didn’t want to say anything to me because he knew I wasn’t ready. We ended up moving our timeline up and are now expecting. Either way it’s good to talk to you husband about anything that may be upsetting you, he’s your partner and at least you can have him there for support.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
This happened to us a few times (because I have wonky cycles sometimes and am really good at convincing myself I’m pregnant). I’d be in a sheer panic for week, Mr. Dragon would be reassuring and tell me it was ok, I’d get my period, and then I’d be sad. Usually he’d ask me if I was sad because I wasn’t pregnant and I’d do a really terrible job of lying with an extremely defensive “NO!”
Anyway, the last time that happened it led to a discussion in which we actually decided on our TTC timeline. I would say something to him — but include the extra details from this time around, so that you aren’t just recycling old conversations.
Post # 7
I would take this as a really good sign, actually. Now you know where you stand with regards to being a parent right now!
Also, “morning sickness” in pregnancy doesn’t just happen in the morning. Just an FYI :-).
Did you throw up your pill at all while you were sick? While you work on a new TTC timeline you might want to use a backup method of birth control!
Post # 8
Definitely talk with your husband about how you feel.