Post # 1
So I’m trying to get a chunk of our invitations addressed, and I’m a little confused. I was reading on a “wedding invitation” page about how to properly address invites and I read this:
“If you are inviting a family with teenagers over 16 years of age, they are required to receive their own separate invitation even if they live
with their parents.”
Is this true? My bridesmaid has a 19 year old sister that I’m inviting, as well as her parents. So I’d need to send an invitation to my bridesmaid and her boyfriend, one to my bridesmaid’s sister, and one to her parents… even though they are all living at the same house? (Minus the boyfriend).
I don’t mind mailing that many if that’s how it’s supposed to go, but sheesh that seems like a lot of mail to one house! I have a couple other families like this, so any advice would be appreciated!
Post # 3
I feel you on this! There are a few people we are inviting who also have grown children that are invited… I actually did separate invites for some but not others. The way I see it, if the parents or child won’t be offended without the separate invite, just send one. Not that many people care about old-fashioned wedding etiquette. But if you think they might be offended (i.e. a 20-something year old living at home who wants to be considered an adult) then it’s safer to send the separate invite. I wonder if you could get away with one outer envelope rather than mailing three separate invites… it would be cheaper for postage that way.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t worry too much about it. I had one cousin, who is 20 years old and still living with the parents, and I sent him his own invitation bc I thought he’d appreciate being invited himself rather than just lumped in with the parents. But you know your guests and if this is going to result in a LOT more invites then you might want to do families as one invite (although then would the boyfriend get his own invitation? And then what if they break up?…)
Post # 5
Thanks guys, that’s kinda what I needed to hear. I’ll just send individual ones on a case-by-case basis, depending on the person. So many rules when it comes to weddings… gives me a headache!
Post # 6
Oh, goodness. I understand the by-the-letter-of-the-law intentions of that rule, I really do, but there’s no way I’m sending one invitation for my aunt, uncle, and their 16-year-old son, but a separate invitation for their 20-year-old son. *My* rule is that if the “kids” are still living with them, they can be included in “and family” on the invitation.
Though, here’s a tough one: Aunt Mary, Uncle John, and their son Bobby all live together, but Bobby is going to propose to his girlfriend on Valentine’s Day (we’ve all been told) and so she’ll need an invitation as well. Oy. I’m going with “Uncle Bob, Aunt Mary, and Bobby” on one invitation and sending the soon-to-be fiancee her own.
Post # 7
hmm..im no expert but i would send one to Unlce and Aunt and a seperate one to Cousin Bobby and gf…If i was the gf i would probably like it that way..either way you would send 2 sep ones..
Post # 8
For any kid who was still at home and they werent going to be able to bring a guest – I just addressed ours to the family. That being said – if any of the “kids” were going to be able to bring a plus 1, I sent them a separate invite because the wording of Mr and Mrs Joe and Janie and Janies Guest Smith…. notsomuch!
Post # 9
Actually, according to Emily Post…
“Children over thirteen should, if possible, receive separate invitations.”