(Closed) Families living together and invitation wording

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I feel you on this! There are a few people we are inviting who also have grown children that are invited… I actually did separate invites for some but not others. The way I see it, if the parents or child won’t be offended without the separate invite, just send one. Not that many people care about old-fashioned wedding etiquette. But if you think they might be offended (i.e. a 20-something year old living at home who wants to be considered an adult) then it’s safer to send the separate invite. I wonder if you could get away with one outer envelope rather than mailing three separate invites… it would be cheaper for postage that way.

Post # 4
1103 posts
Bumble bee

I wouldn’t worry too much about it. I had one cousin, who is 20 years old and still living with the parents, and I sent him his own invitation bc I thought he’d appreciate being invited himself rather than just lumped in with the parents. But you know your guests and if this is going to result in a LOT more invites then you might want to do families as one invite (although then would the boyfriend get his own invitation? And then what if they break up?…)

Post # 6
1569 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Oh, goodness. I understand the by-the-letter-of-the-law intentions of that rule, I really do, but there’s no way I’m sending one invitation for my aunt, uncle, and their 16-year-old son, but a separate invitation for their 20-year-old son. *My* rule is that if the “kids” are still living with them, they can be included in “and family” on the invitation.

Though, here’s a tough one: Aunt Mary, Uncle John, and their son Bobby all live together, but Bobby is going to propose to his girlfriend on Valentine’s Day (we’ve all been told) and so she’ll need an invitation as well. Oy. I’m going with “Uncle Bob, Aunt Mary, and Bobby” on one invitation and sending the soon-to-be fiancee her own.

Post # 7
360 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

hmm..im no expert but i would send one to Unlce and Aunt and a seperate one to Cousin Bobby and gf…If i was the gf i would probably like it that way..either way you would send 2 sep ones..

Post # 8
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

For any kid who was still at home and they werent going to be able to bring a guest – I just addressed ours to the family. That being said – if any of the “kids” were going to be able to bring a plus 1, I sent them a separate invite because the wording of Mr and Mrs Joe and Janie and Janies Guest Smith….  notsomuch!

Post # 9
940 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Actually, according to Emily Post…

“Children over thirteen should, if possible, receive separate invitations.”

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