(Closed) Families never met – and you're already married?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We live next to my fiance’s family, so they all know me :oP

My fiance met my mother in July, more than a year after we started dating and several months after our engagement.

No one from his family has met anyone from my family. His mom and siblings will meet my mom about two weeks before the wedding, on Christmas eve. And conversation will be EXTREMELY limited, due to my mom’s POCITO DE ESPAñOL and his family’s very limited English. haha. We’ll see how that goes!

Post # 5
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580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Well we are engaged and the families haven’t met each other, we are eloping too, so they probably won’t before we are married!

Post # 6
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4047 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

His parents have met my dad, but not my mom.

Not married yet, but we’ve been together over 10 years, own a house together, etc. To be honest I really don’t care if they do meet. I know its the convention, but I don’t really understand why, exactly, it is so important to them. I am not a social person so having to navigate these waters of introducing them makes me nauseous. 

Post # 7
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2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

We haven’t met each other’s families yet, let alone our families meeting! And we’re going on three and a half years! But we live in North Dakota, going to school, his family is in California and mine’s in Canada. It’s too expensive for us to just go on vacation, we both work full time and go to school and for some reason none of our family ever comes here.

 

Post # 8
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529 posts
Busy bee

My parents and SO’s will likely never meet. SO’s parents live in Texas and aren’t really able to travel and my parents live here in New England with us. SO doesn’t think any of his family (he has 3 sisters as well) will come to our wedding. I will be meeting his family in December for the first time since we started dating 2 years ago. SO spends lots of time with my family. After having an invasive and overbearing MIL I am ok with not having them close although I feel sad for SO that they aren’t closer. 

Post # 9
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3302 posts
Sugar bee

Mine will only meet at the wedding- and that is it.

Post # 10
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1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

DH’s mom is in Michigan and my parents are in FL.  They haven’t met, and I’m not sure they ever will.  It’s not a real concern for us, though.  If they end up all coming to our reception next year, they will meet, but we’re not sure his mom will come to the reception since it’s a pretty big trip for her and since we’re already married.

Post # 12
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2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

My parents JUST met his parents, yesterday.  We’ve been friends for 8 years dateing and engaged for 3 of those….hahah oops.

Post # 13
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2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Our families will probably meet at the rehearsal dinner. The women will probably meet at the bridal shower before then. Im not close to my family, so I don’t really feel the need for introductions, they know him and I know his family, that’s good enough for me.

Post # 14
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10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Our families only met once, on our wedding day. I doubt we’ll ever be all together again. 

Post # 15
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1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@sienna76:  I guess I am more accepting because my family is not super close-knit and neither is DH’s.  We place more of an emphasis on chosen family.  Plus, there’s a large age gap between our parents; his mom is 80 and my parents are in their early 50s.  The fact that your parents don’t have this desire to meet his family reflects on them, not you. Try not to let it get you down; I find that often when I try to force things in order to feel like the picture perfect family, the reality doesn’t ever measure up.  Sometimes it’s easier to just work with what you have when it comes to family.

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