Post # 1
ok so heres the story
I recently had my babyshower (I’m due at the end of September).. and my Mother-In-Law didn’t bring anything for a gift, which is fine because money is tight for her. However she brought my neice and bought her a new dress for the event and she made sure to say that she bought it for her. So I got over it, its fine. the next day MIL is at our house and was saying how she went in on a gift with my SIL for the baby and we just hadn’t gotten it yet. She was saying this before my SIL got to my house. When SIL got to our house she asked Mother-In-Law what she had gotten me for the shower and Mother-In-Law tried to brush it off without answering and said I’ll tell you later. (so basically she was claiming a gift that clearly wasn’t from her).. later they were looking at the nursery and I walked in and conversation came to a abrupt stop… so I know they were talking about me.
ok thats not it…
A week later she was at a baby shower for my cousin who lives far away and never is around. I was invited to but did not attend..Mother-In-Law sent me a text and said do you care if I put your name on the gift so it was from her, my SIL and myself and I said that was fine. she went into great detail about what she got for the baby, and she spent quite a bit, its fine.. whatever.
it gets worse….
1 week later we find out that my BIL and his girlfriend are expecting shes only 6 weeks.. Mother-In-Law picked up fabric to make the baby a blanket.. before she even went into the dr. to see if she really was pregnant…. she hasn’t gotten our baby ANYTHING! at all!
ok It might sound like i’m being selfish and just want gifts, but its not the gifts I’m upset about… I just think about my poor baby, is she always going to be the grandchild that gets the shaft. I dont know, maybe its just me she doesn’t like. and the bad thing is, my husband is so protective of his mom, so I’m not sure if I should even bring this up to him… but its really eating at me..
Post # 3
Hopefully she will change her behavior before these babies are born. One would think that she would have learned by now to treat her children equally,
Post # 4
Ohhh that’s so sad! I’m so sorry you are going through that, that must be so hard especially being pregnant when everything is more upsetting. ((HUGS)). Can you talk to your SIL about it? Maybe not the gift thing directly but something about how you noticed that she hasn’t taken as much of an interest in your baby as she has in other babies? And you’re wondering what that’s about? Or even talk directly to her? That really is a strange situation and I can’t help but think there’s definitely a reason besides money being tight. Whether it’s your relationship or some weird kind of jealousy over you/your baby taking her son away (hey it happens) .. something. Either way it is hurtful and I think it would be a good idea to address it before the baby feels the hurt herself. Good luck! Again I’m so sorry!
Post # 5
That seriously sucks. I would feel super shitty if I were in your position. I don’t gave any advice, just (( hugs ))
Post # 6
My Future Sister-In-Law is the same way. I ignore her because she’s nuts and my baby has another aunt who will love him or her, so it’s all good. As long as she has other ppl who love her, it doesn’t even matter. Your Mother-In-Law is a B*tch for acting like that. Maybe she’ll change, maybe not.
Don’t worry about it because baby will be loved regardless!
Post # 7
Talk to her…forget mediating with your husband, Honestly, I think she is old enough and so are you that…if you have a problem with her, you should totally bring it up (in a very nice, polite way obviously). I don’t even know her and I wanna confront her right now!
If nothing works….like the others said: That baby will be loved! Who cares if grannie acts crazy sometimes, I’m sure everyone else will be obsessed with that little one once he/she arrives!
Post # 8
but yeah I wouldn’t mention the gifts…just the overall concept