- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2008
All ‘It will blow over" and "at the end of the day you’ll be married" advice aside, while great – I’ve been hearing it for days and it’s not helped…so I’m taking this to the Hive.
I’m going Cliff Notes version for you or you’ll be here all day. My wedding is in 45 days…just kep that in mind when reading.
1. Baby sister refusing to come to wedding and be my Maid/Matron of Honor. Her abusive jerk of a boyfriend isn’t my favorite person, but we all compromised and allowed him to come to the wedding as long as he doens’t drink. (our philiosophy is we won’t serve him in our homes, we’re not serving him there) He’s an alcoholic who thinks he’s "cured" and it’s ok now to drink again, though each time he has tired this in the past he goes back to his drugs, and emotionally and physically beats my sister.
(Yeah I know she’s an idiot for styaing, it’s a whole nother thing…not even worth getting into)
2. Mom, refusing to come to wedding initally because of a misunderstanding of which I apologized for 3 times. My apology was not good enough, and I needed to admit the misunderstanding was intentional. And now, though she hates my sis’ Boyfriend or Best Friend with a passion, she says if he can’t drink….she won’t come either….
Over 3 days mom has sent me e-mails calling me more horrible things then you can imagine. I woke in the middle of the night crying so hard I couldn’t breath. Mr S says, if she treats me like this then why do I care if she is there? She’s my mom, regardless thats who she is and I cna’t not care about her (though I have been trying lately)
I do not think this one is blowing over, it’s been a few days and it’s getting worse, not normally how arguments in the fam go by now we’d be e-mailing polietly or accepting aopologies. So I’m prepareing for not having them there. But How do I do that? I don’t even know how to process this, I keep getting told I’m selfish and mean and I wonder if these people have ever met me. I do everything for everyone else….
I’m not sure what I’m asking for, if I just needed to get this one out. But if anyone has an idea, something funny – please bring it on because I haven’t gotten out of bed unless necessary in two days.
ADDED THIS IN JUST NOW:
I should note that while you porbably gatrher it front he above, my mom really is that selfish, and really that stubborn. SHe would not go to prove a point.