- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
What a year! I have 4 bridesmaids: my best friend growing up, my sister in law/best friend, and my two cousins (sisters). To be continued after a small explanation:
So my fiancée is in the Air Force and is currently in Florida for training. So I moved back in with my parents because getting an apartment for 9 months is pointless and they wanted me to save money. In April our house caught fire and so did everything I had at my parents house. So my cousin #1 (we shall call her) offered to let me and my tiny dog move in with her. She never asked for money even thought I have offered again and again. She is in her 40’s single, will always be single, and the most bitchy person I know…to other people…or so I thought. Many family members have cut off contact with her because of her attitude. She has done nothing but be rude and hurtful throughout my wedding planning. I took her with my mom and I to try on wedding dresses and because of her comments I ended up in the fitting room crying to the sales lady. I feel like I cannot even enjoy it. Every time I turn around she has another snarky remark, or accusing me of going out to do wedding planning with my sister in law behind her back (well duh!!! it is more fun with her) And why should I have to sneak around anyways?
I took my 2 best friends in on their own trip to get their dresses because the sister in law and cousin #1 DO NOT get along because of cousin #1s preformed opinion. We had so much fun!!! I felt like a normal bride with normal bridesmaids. I came home and attempted to set up a date to get the cousins in to get fitted. Cousin #1 asked to see the dress and because it did not have a big ugly gaudy flower on it like she has picked out (winter wedding people no springy dresses here) she said “well at least it has pockets.” WTF…..It doesnt matter what she thinks, everyone likes it but her. I cant control that! I continue not to say anything about the dress. It has been a month since I told her she needs to go in and get her dress. The other girls ordered late June and should be getting theirs in late October. December wedding…time is a tickin.
Continuing on to the facebook drama. Cousin #2 is poorly influenced by controlling bitchy cousin #1, I do not blame her. Needless to say I was joking around with Cousin #2 on facebook saying she needs to get in to get her dress or it will be too late or she would have to pay more for rush. Cousin #1 “some of us have bills to pay” …… I have bills to pay as well and I fly to Florida every month to keep my relationship going and to see the man I love. As well as paying for a wedding. The dress is $135…for a bridesmaid dress, that is sooooooo nothing! I have paid around $300 for some dresses.
I am moving out this weekend and into my parents small rent condo since their house is being rebuilt. At what point do I stand up to her and say “you are not required to be a bridesmaid, I cannot force you. I want you at the wedding as a bridesmaid or guest and it is your choice not mine. But due to planning I do need to know as soon as possible.”
Am I a bitchy bride? I am pretty tough but I hate when the class my mother taught me to have kicks in and I cannot speak up for myself in fear of causing family drama. Should I just shut up and endure or speak my mind and let her know this is unacceptable?
My only blessing is that no matter what happens …after the wedding I am moving to Florida and the drama will not follow me there.