(Closed) Family Christmas Dinner Help

posted 2 years ago in Holidays
Post # 2
1081 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

I think that’s a lot of money.  There are 4 in my family, so I’d be looking at close to $200.  There is no way I’d pay for a family gathering.  Way too much.  

Post # 3
120 posts
Blushing bee

Can someone else host? Could you find a public park and do a potluck or BBQ? (I’d bet we get good weather in LA the week before Christmas.)

ETA: Since the goal is to see your family, couldn’t you slim down the numbers and just invite your side since you’re traveling to spend time with your DH’s family over the holiday itself?

I’d pay $40-50 a head but I know that might be a hardship for some folks.

Post # 6
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Instead of hosting a family dinner at your home, can you host an “open house” style party instead? You invite people to stop during a time frame you specify as they are able. Then you can have apps and drinks and desserts when they are there and people will stand and mingle.

Post # 7
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I think that’s a a lot of money for a lot of people, especially during the holidays where many people are already spending more than normal.  

Kenneth Hahn is a beautiful park in the middle of LA, and is quite safe. They have a covered picnic area you can rent for a nominal fee, and free picnic tables toward the bottom area.  I would either host on your patio (slim chance of rain) or a public park to make it more financially feasible for your guests. 

Post # 8
652 posts
Busy bee

Does your condo have a common area you can rent out? Are there no cheaper options to host a gathering where you could afford to host ie a local restaurant that’s more casual? If your husband doesn’t think $40/person is expensive, it sounds like it’s maybe more a matter of not wanting to afford?

A big part of hosting is shouldering the cost of the event. If you can’t afford to host an event, please don’t try to pass the cost onto your guests. Even if you just provided meat and beverages, with sides provided but your guests it, would be more than the $120 you’ve budgeted. I’ll be spending about $500-650 to host Thanksgiving at my house to put into perspective what it costs even if you’re preparing the food vs catering.

Post # 10
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

bambiiandthefox :  two ideas… What about a holiday happy hour? That would be less pricy than a full meal and still lots of fun. You could do appetizers, holiday cookies, cocktails etc. Or, since your family is used to bringing food to gatherings, what about renting the space in your condo building, and hosting a potluck there?

Post # 11
6600 posts
Bee Keeper

I find it very off putting that you want to “host” this event but yet force your guests to pay $100 to attend. Because after tax tip and any drinks, its likely to be there per couple. 

I’d either cut the idea, rent the condo room or do an open house style. 

Post # 12
47187 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is a “No” from me. You don’t invite someone to a party, then hand them the bill.

If you can’t afford to host, you can’t afford to host.

Why not invite smaller groups over to dinner in January? Most people have room in their social calendar after Christmas.

Post # 14
47187 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

lleello :  She said they are on a tight budget. They might be able to swing $200.

Post # 15
10651 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I feel like with family, this is the type of question I could ask them about now and get feedback and then make plans from there.
If you don’t have the type of relationship with them, I don’t understand how it would then be ok to ask them to cover their own costs.

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