Post # 16
That’s fine as far as giving more to those who need it, I completely understand that and would feel the same if we didn’t have the relationship with ILs that we do. They are very emotionally abusive to Darling Husband and have never tried helping him. In fact, they kicked him out at 18 resulting in him being homeless. They are struggling financially but at the same time they find the money to spend on things THEY want. Extremely irresponsible. I don’t mind getting SSIL/SSBIL gifts like clothes or whatever but no, neither one of us want to blow a bunch of money on gifts for crappy parents & ILs.
Post # 17
As a side note, as far as his parents being poor vs mine. being well off…they make around the same, but my family is just more responsible with their money. ILs live in a much bigger house and blow money on things that don’t matter. So, it isn’t a matter of them just being poor. Didn’t want to turn this into a thread about how crappy they are but felt like I needed to explain that I’m not just being bitchy about this.
Post # 18
We do a $150 KK with DH’s side of the family, so we really only buy for 2 people on that side. We have nephews who aren’t a part of the KK that we all gift. We also do a $100 KK with my mum’s side of the family, so again only buying for 2 people. We always get my mum and Mother-In-Law something small in addition to this though, even just flowers or something. My extended family on dad’s side don’t do gifts. We gift my dad and step mother and my 3 youngest siblings (aged 14 and under), although my other sister and I don’t gift each other because we do a KK with mum (I have her this year, for example, so it would mean I would be gifting her twice). We spend up to $50 on the kids and $50+ on my dad and step mother (each), depending on the item.
Even though the amounts are all different, the KK limits are what the families have agreed they are comfortable with and all the other gifts are within our means.
Post # 19
Darling Husband has no siblings, but we don’t spend a lot on his parents’ Christmas gifts. We are fairly close with them, but (1) they’re shockers at not using what you buy them (even event tickets will just sit around and expire), and (2) they don’t do much for us financially.
We spend more on my parents because they will drive here (4 hours) to look after our dogs if we ever want to go away, give us so much money, pay for things we want to do on the house. Whenever they come here they buy us a month of groceries at a time, take us out to breakfast/lunch/dinner, etc etc, pay for all our gas. It puts us in a position where we are able to spend a bit more on a gift.
That being said, my parents are getting homemade vouchers this year 😂 I’m going to take each one for a day out doing something they enjoy in a non-touristy part of our town. Reason: they have absolutely everything, and I’m running out of ideas!