Post # 1
TBH, I love brainstorming Christmas gifts and I’m trying to stay on top of shopping this year instead of doing it last minute. Darling Husband and I are also trying to be more budget-conscious this year regarding Christmas because we went way overboard last year and racked up our credit card. Yeah, yeah not the smartest we obviously paid it off, but we want to avoid that this year unless we make purchases strictly for points.
Anyways, I’m struggling with gift ideas for SIL and her fiancé (FBIL). They are newly engaged as of about a month ago. They are going to be building a new house sometime in the spring and will be getting married fall 2020. They also currently live with her parents, my in-laws. Unlike Darling Husband and I who bought a house around Christmas then got married in June, the timing worked out somewhat perfect for Christmas gift ideas the past 2 years. It worked out well to give us gift cards to Lowe’s, Home Depot, cute first house stuff and then we asked for a lot of stuff after we got married that we didn’t originally get from our registry. Not that the timing of their engagement is weird, but I do feel like SIL and Future Brother-In-Law are in a big transitional phase of life where I don’t know quite what gifts would be appreciated/used, etc this year for Christmas.
We are wanting to do a joint gift for the two of them, so I’m looking for suggestions! What would be some good gift ideas? I thought about a sign with their future joint last name (link below) but not sure if that’s appropriate seeing as they aren’t married yet AND I know we received a ton of “EST – last name” décor for shower and wedding gifts.
Thoughts? Other gift suggestions?
Post # 2
could you not get them gift cards so they can buy things for their new house as and when they want though? Maybe, if they are spending money on a house and wedding you could gift them a meal out for date night or something?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2020 - City, State
Like you said, you received a lot of the custom stuff for your own wedding – for us, we went super small, so not many gifts and such, but we got THREE custom things, and one can only display so much of that. I wouldn’t go that direction.
To do something cute and save money, I’d go to a thrift shop and buy a nice basket, then place wine, coffee, or any other sort of goodies that you know they would like. Or even a nice restaurant gift card…if they are living with family, they probably live for date nights out.
Post # 4
My SIL and Future Brother-In-Law just got engaged a few months ago and are planning to buy a house in 2020, too. They’re getting married this time next year. I got them a cute little Mr and Mrs mug and hot chocolate set, and I’m getting a gift card for one of their favorite nicer restaurants. I’m going to write something like “you guys have a busy year coming up, enjoy a date night on us when you need a little distraction.” I hope they like it.
Post # 5
Date night gift cards can be nice. Some experience like dance lessons or laser tag or a painting or ceramics class. Even a nice restaurant.
Post # 6
Gift cards to a store did cross my mind, but I think they are still pretty far out from any building plans, let alone doing anything on the interior. Plus (and I know I’m thinking way ahead) with the estimated timing of when the bridal shower would be (I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor, lol) I expect them to also get a lot of giftcards to places for their house as well. I didn’t want the gift cards to sit for so long, but still a good idea that I’ll consider.
Yeah, exactly why I was hesitant for the Est. sign but I couldn’t think of anything else. The gift basket is a great idea so I’ll think of some good ideas I could throw into that. Especially noting they are obviously watching spending with building a new house.
The mugs crossed my mind because I liked the idea of something with “Mr” or “Mrs” matching sets on it, but they aren’t big coffee drinkers. I may keep looking on Etsy though for something with that for them that may be a little bit more functional they would use more.
Question for all, because I like the gift card idea – Would it come across as lazy or “blah” if we went with a plain old VISA Gift Card? Maybe thrown into a cute basket with some suggestions from other PPs. At least the VISA they could use wherever right, instead of limiting them to the specific places designated for the gift cards.
Post # 7
I got my SIL and her now-husband a Christmas ornament from Etsy one year that had their names, the year, and “Engaged” on it. I think the zero in the year was designed to look like an e-ring. Maybe something small like that?
Post # 8
Love this idea! Not totally counting it out but Mother-In-Law is the queen of yearly ornaments for us couples. Every year she gifts ornaments to us with the year so I already assume she’s probably gotten them an ornament especially since this is their first engaged Christmas.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
I’ll give you my family gift idea because we’re giving these to everyone this year. We’re making movie night baskets with varying combinations of the following things depending on the recipeints:
- Box of popcorn (movie theater butter flavored, of course!)
- Hot chocolate mix and mugs
- Throw blanket
- Fleece socks (more so for the girls)
- Bath and Bodyworks Candle
- The recipeints’ favorite candy or snacks
- A cute little poem about enjoying the movie night
- An amazon or netflix gift card so that they can buy movies on Prime Video or do whatever they want with them
I actually opened a similar style basket for White Elephant (Yankee Swap) at a work party last year and loved it, so now I’m stealing it but adding a few extras to make it a nice gift that I imagine all of our family members will enjoy.
Post # 10
I’m not a fan of stuff like the personalized “LASTNAME Family, Est 2019” signs. I’d be especially wary unless you know 100% that she is planning to change her last name rather than hypenating, double-barreling, or keeping her own name.
I think date-night stuff would be lovely. Maybe a gift card to a restaurant, or gift card for the movie theatre? A museum membership? What do they like to do? You could also look at getting gift cards for places like bowling alleys, rock climbing gyms, craft/wine nights, stuff like that.
Post # 11
I’ll definitely be considering this for family gifts in general and their gift. I’ve always love this idea, I’m just not creative to think of all the things to put in a basket like this on my own.
I know, I’m the same way about the personalized stuff because we got a bunch of unwanted personalized decor as gifts for our shower and wedding and have no use for it. I’m definitely steering away from the idea now because I also have no clue how they’ll “style” their home to know if it would even fit in.
I’ll do some Pinteresting stuff for a date night basket of some sort. That’s a good idea, but I struggle because they don’t really have any shared hobbies so gifting an experience would be difficult. Like Darling Husband and I both have one very clear hobby for the two of us, but SIL and Brother-In-Law do a lot of stuff separate so finding a joint “experience” gift outside of a date night would be hard. Even then, they don’t go on date nights (not so much a financial thing, they just don’t…) and if they do, it rarely comes up in conversation if they would prefer a steak house VS sushi for example.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
I’m sure you could find more ideas on Pinterest!
Post # 13
You can donate something for the house. What you’ll need
Post # 14
A lot of things will be needed for a new home. You can make a gift in the form of household appliances. It could be a laundry dryer. With a portable dryer in the house there will be no big problem with dry clothes even in cold weather conditions. You can watch a review of the best portable dryer on https://pickadvisor.org/best-portable-dryers/ . This will make it much easier for you to choose a gift.
Post # 15
pretty interesting suggestions