Post # 77
@fascinated: I throw photo cards away (unless it’s really close family). I don’t keep printed photo albums and I dont really care to have a photo of Cousin Hilda cluttering my drawers. It’s a nice thought, but if it’s going to delay the thank yous, I dont think it’s worth it.
Post # 78
@fascinated: true, it might be generational. I don’t care either way to be honest.
Post # 79
That’s how I was brought up. We had one week to enjoy a new toy and write a thank you. If that thank you was not written within a week, the toy was taken away. Oh, you want to spend the next 2 hours playing on your Gameboy? Better take that 10 minutes to write out a thank you to your grandparents. It makes sense to me. Once I started getting checks for things, I gave myself a two week limit- write the thank yous within two weeks of cashing the checks, but preferably sooner. There wasn’t really a consequence if I didn’t, but it motivated me to trudge through them.
Write them out while watching tv or a movie. Or while waiting for the laundry to dry. 5 minutes here and there adds up fast.
Post # 80
Haters gonna hate. Apologising or changing the wording wont change their minds.
I would focus on the intent behind the cards, not whether you complied with one persons subjective timeline of ‘proper etiquette’.
You are intending to give a personaised thank you to your dear guests who shared a very special moment with you. An extra month or so wont change than intention and the recipients will still appreciate it.
Post # 81
@alicroo86: Emily Post says thank you notes for wedding gifts need to be given within 3 months from receipt of gift.
So, if it’s been 3 months since receipt of the gift then you are wrong and need to send a thank you asap with an apology for your tardiness to those relatives that are peeved.
If it has not been 3 months then simply send a thank you for the gift.
Post # 82
I think photo cards are a silly excuse to delay sending thank you cards and in my experience, these usually take six months or more to receive. I realize it takes time to get proofs back from your photographer, order them, etc. I wrote all of my thank you notes on blank cards and mailed out holiday cards with our wedding photos.
Post # 83
I was raised to get my ass on thank you cards ASAP.
Today I wrote out all 15 of my Christmas thank you notes and I wouldn’t want to wait a day more. I get it…..people say they’re busy. You’re busy, I’m busy, we’re all busy.
I think two months is the max a couple should go. Who honestly thinks ONE YEAR is acceptable for thank you notes? Give me a break.
Post # 84
@louisianablue: I think it’s so rude.
Thank you notes are about the gifter – waiting 6 months for pro shots is saying that the thank you card is more about you than them.
Post # 85
I had a friend get married almost three years ago, and I’m still expecting her thank you to show up in my mail someday. I never assume that someone isn’t sending a thank you card 😉
Post # 86
Somehow over the years, people have confused the “you have one year to give a gift” with, “you have one year to write a thank you card”. That is SOOOOO far from the case.
I’m also of the mind that they should be sent as early as possible. They should be a priority. I wrote mine on the plane on the way back from my honeymoon.
@louisianablue: +1 The whole “but I wanted to put a picture on my thank you cards” thing really is a silly excuse to me too. First of all, it doesn’t change the fact that it’s 6+ months later and most people assume they’re not getting a thank you. And most people aren’t going to look at it at that point and say, “Well it has a picture on it, that’s why it took so long to send.”
Post # 87
We had all of ours done and sent one week after the wedding! But I wanted them all out of the way when we left for our honeymoon (one week after the wedding)!
I think as long as they’re received by 3 months after your wedding date, you’re fine!
Post # 88
@KateByDesign: I think it’s also a little self involved to think that people would rather not be thanked, so that they can get a picture of the recipient. I don’t expect that people are desperate to have a photo of me and husband.
If people are super keen on sending out a photo, there is also the option of a 2nd mailing. And really I keep people’s wedding photos for a few weeks then (guiltily) throw them out.
Post # 89
@andielovesj: Most definitely.
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Post # 91
@Rubbs: Yup, I completely agree with every word you said!