(Closed) Family Conflict and Engagement Party?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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1523 posts
Bumble bee

Maybe just have a quiet engagement dinner so that the families can all get together…maybe even at a restaurant or something. If it’s just your families, then they may be more like to all come so that they don’t seem like party poopers. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I know you want an engagement party- and that you would like it to be from your families- or with them there- but what about celebrating with your friends who are truely excited for you? Your family will come around hopefully- but it may take a few discussions. I had an interesting talk with my mom about a month into my engagment that ended with a week of not speaking to her. When I explained why I was so upset, things turned around.  Sometimes it takes just saying whats on your mind and listening to why they are upset or un-approving.  You two have been together for 5 years- it’s not like you’re young and just marrying someone you met a minute ago- or rushing into it.  Maybe talk to your parents and try to understand why they are not so supportive, and then explain in very simple terms what you really want- their love and support and a party.  🙂 Good luck! I hope they come around!!!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Perhaps you could just have a get-together but don’t call it an engagement party. Like have a BBQ for labor day or something, and invite both families. if you are not planning on getting married for a while, you can have an engagement party at a later date.

I’m sorry your families aren’t more supportive and interested! Hopefully they will come around in time.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would skip the party – our families were excited for us and we still didn’t have one. It’s not really proper etiquette to throw a party for yourselves, and given the cirumstances it sounds like it would be extremely awkward. They have over two years, I’m sure they’ll become more excited once it’s close to the actual date!

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