- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I’ve never posted anything before, so bear w/ me!! Trying to plan the wedding however I have a kind of complicated family…My parent’s divorced when I was 3 yrs old, due to the fact that my dad was cheating on my mom. My dad is still with the woman after twenty-something years and they have never married. My mom hates her to say the least, however she has always said she would never stir up drama, especially on our wedding day. My dad’s girlfriend (Let’s call her “Julia”) caused a lot of pain in my younger years to my family, for example harassing my mom and that side of the family even up to my high school years. “Julia” has always tried to be very friendly, too friendly, if that makes any sense. Any issues/fights me and my dad have gotten in, she is usually at the root of. However, since my dad and her have been together for so many years, she has been apart of my life through default. Julia is always friendly (tries to act motherly) to my face, however I know for a fact she says otherwise to her friends. (I’m realizing this is making no sense, I’m sorry!) Backtracking for a bit: For my 8th grade graduation I told my dad I did not want her there and it was hell…still gets brought up. Through the years I have realized it’s best to not bring up the past for the sake of peace and having a relationship with my dad. (Side note:my fiance hates her for what she did and how she treats me/him with her snide comments.) My question is should I even invite her? We want a SMALL wedding. Side note my dad will not be giving me away, personal preference, and his reaction to me telling him we were getting married was “hope you thought it through”. Thinking about all the family drama makes us want to elope and just focus on each other, but we know that would kill my mom and grandparents even though they say whatever we decide they support. Sorry this is so long But any advise/comments/suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!!