(Closed) Family dispute over Bridesmaids.

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

honestly, go along with your fiance. the bride chooses the bridesmaids, not the groom.   is she choosing your groomsmen?

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

i wouldn’t blame your fiance for ‘pulling you two apart’, she has every right to be stubborn, they are her attendants after all. if you want your aunt’s granddaughter as an attendant why don’t you have her stand on your side?

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

have her walk in with your groomsmen, and stand on that side with them ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

no problem ๐Ÿ™‚

well it’s better than expecting your Fiance to have people she doesn’t want as HER attendants, hopefully she (and your family) will be happy with this compromise ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Jacqui90:  I agree with this idea! Its becoming more and more popular and if Fiance had a lady friend he wanted on his side, I would totally support him!

OP- Just talk to your Fiance. You said that her 3 year old niece is a bridesmaid? Can she maybe be a flowergirl with your niece? I think that would be cute with them walking down the eisle holding hands.

I’m not sure why family members think that they have the right to throw fits about who is in the wedding party! I just causes the bride and groom more stress and it’m not their choice to choose who they have standing up with them!

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@chiddyj:  your mum’s sister won’t speak to her just cos her granddaughter isn’t in YOUR wedding? honestly that’s horrible, and she isn’t worth speaking to. this is your wedding, not your aunt’s! i hope she grows up and realises it is your wedding and your Fiance gets to choose bridesmaids. why would the granddaughter be in bridesmaid photos, when she is not a bridesmaid? why can’t she be in the photos with the groomsmen? your side – the photos with your side of the bridal party

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

i’m sorry ๐Ÿ™ hopefully your aunt will get over it, and still come to your wedding and support you. i hope it works out!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Jacqui90:  I think the Grooms is British deare. So the bridesmaids are children. Think Prince William and Kate’s wedding

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@LuvMySailor: no i understand the bridesmaids-children thing. i mean the bride should choose bridesmaids, not the groom. so if the bride doesn’t want the granddaughter on her side, the groom can have her on his.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@chiddyj:  Hi love! There are guys who post here so don’t worryl.

I am sorry your aunt is emotinally manipulative. That being said, if she chooses to miss your big day then that is on her. You have a good reason for not including her: you do not see her. You need to explain/gently chastise your mom for being emotionally manipulated by her sister and tell her no.

If your aunt wants to miss your day, so be it. Surround yourself with those who truly love you without strings attached

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