(Closed) Family doesn’t intend to come to wedding

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Hurt your feelings if your parents didn't WANT to go to your destination wedding & its not because $
    Yes : (63 votes)
    93 %
    No : (5 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Of course it would hurt my feelings if my parents could easily afford to attend a Destination Wedding, but chose not to.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    In my case it isnt my parents that dont want to go its most of my cheap family… They definetly have the money they are just very cheap and it really hurts my feeelings. I am also the first girl to get married from my family, it is my step dads family my moms side we dont know as she is adopted. You think I would mean more to them.

    Post # 6
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We wanted to do a destination wedding, my parents were all for it, but Mr. M’s MOTHER wasn’t! Of course we couldnt just elope either :/ It’d “break her heart” ugh – sorry a little venting there

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Okay this may be way off the mark, but I know a lot of people who think Jamaica is dangerous, I have quite a few friends from Jamaica so I don’t see it that way, but could it be that they’ve heard horror stories? Or are they just doing this as a way to show you that they don’t approve of your plans?

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I am sorry.  I would be heart broken if I were in your shoes.  Can you speak to them again and tell them how hurt you are by their decision?

    Post # 10
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I dont understand. do you have a bad relationship with your parents? you said they would “probably” go if it was local? do they not like your FI?

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @PrettyInInk_85:  I’m so sorry.  🙁  I just read one of your previous posts outlining what has been going on with your family and really…the situation sucks.  Sucks.

    I know that you’re upset that your parents aren’t showing more of an interest, but frankly, I think that you need to try (and I can’t imagine how difficult this would be) to let what they are doing go.  If they are going to be so hurtful, bigoted and cruel about your FH, wedding, etc. can you imgaine what it will be like when/if you decide to have kids?  Unfortunately, I think that you’re going to need to develop a super-thick skin for your own sanity and distance yourself.  I would try hard to stop looking for approval because it really seems like they aren’t going to just wake up and realise that they are being idiots.

    They are wrong, but you need to live your life and be happy.

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @PrettyInInk_85: I am very sorry to hear this. 🙁 HUGS! To answer your question, yes I would be very upset. one day they will come around…it might just take some time…

    Post # 14
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    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m going out on a limb here, but is it possible that they don’t approve of your wedding for some reason? Do they have issues with your FI? Don’t think he’s the right guy for you? Don’t think this is a good time for you to get married? The engagement reaction makes me think there’s something more going on . . .

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @PrettyInInk_85: I’m sorry hun but it sounds like the real issue is your parents don’t approve. And unfortunately, that’s a bigger issue then them not wanting to go to Jamaica. Jamaica sounds like an excuse. If you had the wedding locally would they go? You guys need to have a heart to heart. I’m so sorry for your pain.

    Post # 16
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    7387 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    That really sucks and i’m sorry, I can’t imagine going thru this. If this man treats you well and you both are supportive of each other, its a shame that your parents can’t get past their reservations. Your wedding is almost a year away, they may very well change their minds. Sadly, you can’t change them they have to grow on their own. Don’t let them take away your joy.

    On a postive note.. Your weddings gonna be freaking AWESOME and the pictures will be insane!  I’m jelly. I dream of having a carribbean wedding.

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