(Closed) Family doesn’t intend to come to wedding

posted 10 years ago in Family
  • poll: Hurt your feelings if your parents didn't WANT to go to your destination wedding & its not because $

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  • Post # 18
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    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    We could have gotten married in South Africa for about 5000 and had it be my DREAM wedding. Instead we are getting married on San Francisco for about 30,000 and am in debt. We did this because my Dad, Grandma and some extended family would just not go there (plus the travel is super expensive) but even for the ones who could afford it……

    it is what it is. 

    But if I were you, of course I would be very upset. 🙁

    Post # 19
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    37 posts
    Newbee

    I’m sorry you have to deal with this:( I agree with the others tho. You may need to distance yourself. You seeking their approval lets them know they are getting to you. Therefore giving them more control. (over your emotions, or knowing that the cold shoulder will hurt you even more) It’s hard, but if you can just casually keep them informed and don’t try so hard. Like, if you are going to try on dresses, send a text or call to your mom, tell her where you will be and for what time and tell her she is welcome to join. I know every family dynamic is different.

    They love you so they will eventually see that your love your man and you two are now a package deal. GL!

    Post # 20
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    132 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @PrettyInInk_85: I remember a few of your previous posts/comments, and I remember being so angry at your parents for how they are treating your Fiance and you.

    I say screw ’em, quite frankly. If they won’t accept your choice of partner, your relationship, and your future, then they needn’t worry themselves about attending your wedding. Do you really want them there if they treat the two of you so badly?

    We had some family members refused to attend our wedding as well – which meant DH had like 35 family members and I had 4. But at the end of the day, honestly, I didn’t miss them. And you won’t either. B/C you’re gaining an entire other family that loves you and supports you. It’s their loss, not yours.

    Post # 21
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    603 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Ooh… yeah, I’d say it has nothing to do with Jamaica, it has everything to do with them not approving of you having an interracial relationship. I’m so sorry, that really sucks 🙁 I agree with others — it’s your life, he is your fiancee, stop looking to them for approval b/c they’ll never see past the color of his skin. Sad 🙁

    Post # 24
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    76 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Hopefully your sisters are able to go!

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