(Closed) Family drama

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This is my first post and it caught my eye since I am having “drama” as well… I have to be honest, I am shocked.  I think I would be extremely upset that it’s a month after yours.  Not only that it’s so close to his SISTER’S wedding but he clearly didn’t think about the rest of the family.  That’s two showers, two weddings, two gits, back to back.  Its a lot for any family.  It’s not like you’re cousins, you’re siblings.  Why is everything a competition?? Do you get along with his fiance?  Is there any chatting with her?  What did you parents say?

 

Sidenote- I loathe engagement ring comparisons esp about size.

 

 

Post # 5
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Everyone always says, “You only get one day.” And it’s true. If your brother chose that date and is going to knowingly inconvenience family, then that’s on him. It’s not your fault and there is really nothing you can do about it. You can feel badly for the family, but again, not your call. Your wedding is almost an entire month apart, so it’s not exactly unheard of.

It kind of sounds like they are getting married on (or near?) their 1 year anniversary? Correct me if I’m way off? Your brother sounds like a nightmare, but all of that is pretty irrelevant to him choosing a wedding date a month after yours in my opinion. If it were the same weekend or a week after, then that would not only be weird, but they would seriously be falling all over themselves trying to get it planned. Again, not your problem right? So I would just leave it alone. You can feel however you want (all feelings are justified and normal) but…no use giving him what he may want, which is a reaction out of you guys.

Post # 7
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@libs1990:  Of course you are permitted to feel however you want. My thought is that…all feelings are justified. They are feelings. It isn’t as if you get to CHOOSE your feelings, honey! And I agree that it’s strange no one will just come out with it already. It isn’t as if they can keep it a secret or something? I guess you just don’t express your feelings on it to your family, keep your happy face on, and watch them scramble? Maybe that last bit was a tad snarky but…. 😉

Post # 8
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2 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@libs1990:  

 

Depending on which forum you posted it in, you will have VERY rude answers.  I usually stick to my NJ board and month.  You’re better off there… Also, I agree w/ pp, you may be giving your brother what he wants.. the reaction.  Either way, this is totally frustrating. 

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