Post # 1
I am so fed up with wedding planning! I just found out that my father is paying for the hotel accommodations for my great aunts and great uncle. I cannot even believe that grown adults would let my father do this. They wouldn’t even come to my wedding if it weren’t for my dad paying for the vacation. The Fiance and I are paying for OUR WEDDING not some family reunion which they think this is. I am so angry. They have been waiting this whole time so my dad would pay for it. Who does that?
They are seriously trying to take over my wedding and using it as their family reunion. I am so made because at one of them never liked and always talks about me. I always have to reach out to her because my dad forces me to. I didn’t even want to invite her, but my dad forced me into it. Then my great uncle who i have seen all of three times in my life is all about my wedding and how great its going to be and how he can’t wait (to get drunk). He is trying to tell me when he is going to take my Fiance out and when I should have my reeharsal dinner. They think i should have it on Friday so “everyone” can be there. NO!!!!!!!!! Tell them to change their flights if that is the case, its not like they are paying for hotel rooms. Now my dad wants to have a meet and greet at the house on Friday when they get in and order Sonny’s BBq. NO! We have vegetarian friends and a gluten free FMI, which I don’t care too much for anyway, but still!!!!!!! I am so mad. This has turned into obviously a family reunion that I am paying for. I won’t have it.
Seriously I am about to lose my mind!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can’t take this. Wedding planning sucks and if I could get my deposits back, I would elope IMMEDIATELY!
I don’t even like my dress. So much for that fairytale wedding. I hate you Disney Princess characters. LOL!
Post # 3
Sorry you’re stressed! Is there something else that happened that makes you feel like they think it’s a family reunion? Also, is it possible your great aunts and uncles can’t afford to pay for both a flight and a hotel room?
Post # 4
@Beckster329: No, I know they can pay for it. If they can’t they shouldn’t come. I know that sounds harsh, but they have never reached out to me my entire life (im in my 30s). And they in fact used the term “family reunion” which almost made my head explode. I seriously don’t think my dad should pay for it and for them to accept just boggles my mind!
I received a text message from my one of them asking me there was a rumor that I was booking rooms at the hilton. (PS I blocking rooms not paying for them) AND that they have been waiting to hear from me and it would be greatly appreciated if I can them information ASAP. This was 6 months ago. There were other passive agressive comments in there too. My wedding isn’t until May!
I am so mad at my dad for doing this. His family has never done anything for me, but all the sudden the want to come to my wedding which is code for paid family reunion. Ugghhhhh. Unbelievable. I have been fuming since last night.
Post # 5
It really does seem like weddings bring out the worst in people sometimes, doesn’t it? Ugh! Can you talk to your dad about it? If not, or if he won’t budge, I think you should just hold your ground and try not to worry about it too much. It sucks because I’m sure you’re more stressed than any of them are!
Post # 6
Ok first you need to breathe!!!!! I would be pissed also without a doubt. Have you spoken to your father about your feelings? Is it possible to have a “firm” conversation about “your” wedding and what you want?
IMO I would talk to him tell him what I feel and continue on with whatever plans I was doing from the start. If they (certain family members) werent getting an invitation before then they wont get one now. Explain that extra people means extra cost. If you have plans on having your rehersal dinner somewhere else do it.
Im not saying to be rude but be firm and say that you cant schedule your events around everyone’s personal plans. This is how it is !!!!!
Im sorry your going through this. Hopefully things will get better 🙂