Post # 1
It may be hard to give input on the situation, but if anyone has been in a similar situation any advice would be helpful from all the bees out there!
My dad and his brother went into business together about 3 years ago. It has caused many issues between them and their relationship has struggled a lot. Right now they are civil with each other, but they are not as close as they used to be and they fight constantly. My parents have always been close with my uncle and aunt- going on vacation together, ect- My aunt has always been very controlling and she puts my dad down a lot. They grew up together and my dad has kinda just put up with it since it is his brother’s wife. Since the business has started (which my mom and aunt are not part of) my mom and aunt’s relationship has been rocky. Too make this story shorter- my aunt was a complete bitch to my mom back in November and they have not spoken since. My mom has tried to reach out, but has gotten no response.
So here is where the problem lies… All of my dad’s pther sibling’s will be sitting with my dad and mom and the parent table and I feel like I have to include them. I am not to fond of my aunt right now-after what she did to my mom, but I feel like not putting them there is jut going to make things worse. I keep having nightmares about this! Even though my parents are not on good terms with my aunt and uncle, I am not worried they will start a fight at the wedding or anything. I know they would never do that. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Gotta love the family drama!
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Have you talked to your parents about this? It sounds like the answer is to put all the siblings together, unless your parents are inviting other friends/grandparents who could fill up their table.
Post # 4
@vanilla44: I know what you mean. My parents get along well with all their siblings, but within the siblings there is some drama — one aunt told another aunt that she shouldn’t be bringing her boyfriends home around her young children, a fight ensued, and now the two aunts haven’t spoken to each other in months. So figuring out the seating chart is a bit of a challenge, especially since FI’s parents are divorced so they have to be at different tables.
I always say that keeping the peace trumps keeping with tradition. So your best bet may be to split the family down the middle instead of having a ‘parents table’. In other words, have your folks and maybe one aunt and uncle at one table with some other people, and then the rest of them at a different table with other family members filling the space. That way, people who don’t like each other don’t have to sit together, but it also doesn’t look like you’re excluding just one couple. Is it possible to split the family like that without making it look bad?
Post # 5
@rebwana: I talked to my mom about it, and she thinks putting them at that table will be ok. She wants to try and keep the peace- I know if we put them at a seperate table, more drama would come
@PinkFlemingo: I dont really think I can split up the table. My dad really wants to sit with his other brother, because they dont see each other often and he wants to sit with his sister, because my mom and dad are very close with her and she is close with the uncle who lives far away. Im going to talk to my parents once more time about it to make sure its all good, because we have to start seating soon. Good luck with your family and seating arraingments!