(Closed) Family drama

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Is cost their issue? Last time I looked into staying in the Whitsundays it was very expensive. It’s way more expensive for the Queenslanders and somewhat more expensive for the WA people (who need to travel anyway). Unfortunately you can’t force people to spend lots of money to attend your wedding.

EDIT: Oh wait I see you say you’re paying, which is very generous of you. Well it’s a very long haul from WA to Qld and back in a single weekend. Also some teachers have weekend commitments… all I can say is talk to those particular people about it.

In the end all you can do is schedule the wedding and hope most people come. If people are determined not to come there’s not much you can do.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ll add, in my family there have been two (Australian) interstate weddings, and in both cases the entire immediate family made the trip. Is your family saying they would never fly to Queensland? Because in my experience that is unusual (and unreasonable).

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Maybe you could get married on your own or with just your parents so that it is even, no one came. Then have a smaller wedding with each side. Or have a small wedding with each side and don’t tell them which one is the one where you will be signing the marriage certificate.

Even if you are paying for their travel, there can be a lot more costs involved. Hotels, time off work, food outside of the wedding. Perhaps they really just can’t afford the additional costs. I am making the assumption that WA is the US state of Washington, correct me if I am wrong. Then you have the whole passport issue.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1993

“You can’t make it? Aw that is very unfortunate, we would have loved to have you there!”

That’s all you have to say. Anybody that complains about your wedding should not go. You can’t force people to attened. You are covering the costs, providing child care, and they are still not satisfied? what more do they want from you. If anything you are bending over backwards to make them feel comfortable and to meet their needs. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had a bit of an internet look this morning: it’s a 4+ hour flight Perth to Brisbane and then another 1.5 hour flight to the Whitsundays. For the schoolteacher who has to work Friday that’s really hard to make a Saturday wedding. I think their only choice would be the midnight flight: it leaves Perth around midnight, goes to Melbourne (or Sydney?) and then connects to Brisbane around 6-7 am the next day (Saturday). Another option is to move the wedding a month back to the April school holidays. But (and I’ve no idea) that might be more expensive.

Anyone else, yeah it’s disapppointing they won’t take a day or two off to fly across the country for a family member’s wedding, especially your own mother. I think all you can do is call her bluff and organise the wedding when it suits you. 

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