Post # 1
Help! Advice please. My fiancee’s brother is a pshyco… let just call him Mr X. He has always been jealous of my FH and I am worried he is going to jeapordize our wedding day.
My fiancee is such a nice person and has always given Mr X the benefit of doubt despite when he is always borrowing money, stealing, getting involved with drugs, stressing out his own mum and sister and family etc.
My FH and I are quite close with his family, always hagning out getting along however mr.x finds out that we go out without him on facebook and starts getting really agitated and takes it out on my FH when we have not done anything at all! We can’t help that his family enjoys our company more than his.
Within the last 12 months Mr.X has been so up and down acting like FH’s best friend and then being a jerk the next.
I drew the last draw yesterday when my FH’s sister and I decided to catch up for dinner. I posted on her Facebook wall “what time is dinner” to which she repled “6.30 cannot wait to see you” Mr. X saw this and then wrote “where is my invite” and then shortly after “F you all you are all C**ts and not invited to my wedding anymore rarara”
I was so embarrased, a lot of people saw this. He assumed that we were going round there for another dinner even though my Future Sister-In-Law and I were catching up for dinner alone.
I really want him to apologize for being such a jerk but it makes me so angry. The way that he can treat us all, however we have to walk around eggshells because he is the way that he is.
I am SO over it. Anyone can you provide some advice on how to treat someone like that?
Post # 3
I’m sorry you’ve got to put up with this, but this is your fiance’s decision, not yours.
Post # 4
I’m sorry to hear you’re going through all this drama. You have every right to feel the way you do. But unfortunately he IS your FI’s brother, you can’t really cut him out unless your Fiance does. It’s very hard to cut family out of someone’s life.
What does your Fiance think about his behaviour? It may be time to have a serious talk with him and get him to step in.
Post # 5
@margaritarow: I could have written this about my SO’s sister. It is even harder with her because she will act like SO’s best friend in the world and then be a raving bitch to me. Honestly, it has been a long road even getting him to see her in a bad light and what she is doing to me, but now he recognises who she is and that has really taken her power away. I don’t think she will ever be fully out of our lives but her input is definitely limited. I agree though, this has to be 100% your FI’s decision. Have a chat with him about it and what you see as looking out for your Fiance. See if he agrees? 🙂 Good luck, these family issues suck!
Post # 6
I agree with the previous post. It sucks and it is ridiculous that he acts like that, but unless your FH makes this decision I think you need to live with him being around even if you attempt to distance yourself a bit. And make sure FH fully wants to otherwise he might begin to resent you for taking away his relationship with his brother.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
Agree with PP. You can talk to your Fiance and limit how much interaction you have with Future Brother-In-Law. But unfortunately you can’t fully get rid of him unless Fiance is willing. I deal with similar issues (although not as drastic) as you do but with my Future Father-In-Law and as of yesterday I have a feeling Future Sister-In-Law whom I never met until yesterday (after 3 years with my Fiance. He says there is a reason he never wanted me to meet her.) Good luck and I hope for the best for you.
Post # 8
Sounds like my brother and if my SO wanted to cut my brother out of his life, then it would be a deal breaker. Family is family.
Post # 9
That sucks, he sounds like a real jerk. If you’re getting married though he will be your family. You can’t ask your FH to cut his brother out of his life. If he wanted to do that he would do it on his own. Unfortunately, when you get married you don’t just get the love of your life, you also get their family. You better decide now if that is something you can handle for the rest of your life.