(Closed) Family drama

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee

Oh I totally know what you mean! It’s been about four years for me and theres no end in sight.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Catholic Ceremony, Cultural Hall Reception

My parents got divorced last year, after 20 years of marriage.  It’s been hard, but I have learned to tune them out when they start to talk about each other.  I still haven’t figured out exactly how I will make our wedding less awkward for them (and for us).  I know that I need to sit them at different tables, but I don’t know how to do this with out one of them feeling like they are sitting at the “worse” table. 

Sorry, I’m not much help, but I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone!

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Oh no!

 

I’m sorry about this. Unforunately this is a problem a lot of brides deal with. I know that for my future hubby his parents hate each other- extremely messy divorce but they both really love their son so I think they’re going to attempt to make things better for the sake of him AND ME!

 

Perhaps write a letter saying how you feel? Or duke it out now? I think that something should be down or said so nothing blows up at the wedding. keeping in feelings is bad and it’s ususally only a matter of time before they burst out and become worse :o(

Post # 8
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My parents also divorced after 20 years of marriage.  It was brutal for a long time, having to listen to them badmouth each other.

I finally learned to set limits with them.  When the badmouthing began I would say, “You know what?  I don’t like to hear these things about Mom/Dad.  You have chosen to get a divorce, but I still have two parents.  You need to respect me by not bashing my mother/father.”

They’ve mellowed out with time.  But if anyone makes a scene at my wedding, they will be escorted out.  I just don’t tolerate the bullSh*t!

good luck, I know how hard this can be!

 

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