Post # 1
Is anyone else dealing with family drama?
My parents got divorced about 3 years ago (right before their 28 year anniversary). The drama hasn’t stopped since then! They constantly are fighting about money and court orders. Im SOOOO tired of being brought into the middle of it. My mom constantly cries to me about her problems with my dad and tries to get me to take her side. I try to stay as neutral as possible and have told them BOTH numerous times to leave me out of it, but that never happens. Like tonight, my mom was pouting and super quiet and I knew she was upset, so of course I asked her about it, even though I didnt want to get involved and I got roped into the drama.
Im just so tired of it, it seriously makes me want to go away to get married and not invite ANY of my or his family. I know I would regret it and would probably resent them forever…UGGGH Im just so tired of all of it!
Thanks for listening!
Post # 3
Oh I totally know what you mean! It’s been about four years for me and theres no end in sight.
Post # 4
so what are you doing about your wedding? any alternate plans?
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2010 - Catholic Ceremony, Cultural Hall Reception
My parents got divorced last year, after 20 years of marriage. It’s been hard, but I have learned to tune them out when they start to talk about each other. I still haven’t figured out exactly how I will make our wedding less awkward for them (and for us). I know that I need to sit them at different tables, but I don’t know how to do this with out one of them feeling like they are sitting at the “worse” table.
Sorry, I’m not much help, but I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone!
Post # 6
I am setting my parents at different tables, they will have 1 table in between them. If drama breaks out at my wedding, they will both be asked to leave. I’m not about to let them ruin my wedding…UGGH the stress! Already!
Post # 7
I’m sorry about this. Unforunately this is a problem a lot of brides deal with. I know that for my future hubby his parents hate each other- extremely messy divorce but they both really love their son so I think they’re going to attempt to make things better for the sake of him AND ME!
Perhaps write a letter saying how you feel? Or duke it out now? I think that something should be down or said so nothing blows up at the wedding. keeping in feelings is bad and it’s ususally only a matter of time before they burst out and become worse :o(
Post # 8
My parents also divorced after 20 years of marriage. It was brutal for a long time, having to listen to them badmouth each other.
I finally learned to set limits with them. When the badmouthing began I would say, “You know what? I don’t like to hear these things about Mom/Dad. You have chosen to get a divorce, but I still have two parents. You need to respect me by not bashing my mother/father.”
They’ve mellowed out with time. But if anyone makes a scene at my wedding, they will be escorted out. I just don’t tolerate the bullSh*t!
good luck, I know how hard this can be!