(Closed) Family drama….

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 18
2326 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

i’m so sorry you’re going through this. it’s always amazing to me when people choose so called ‘religion’ (that is supposed to espouse acceptance, forgiveness, etc) and use it as a weapon against their own family. it reminded me of this article i read just yesterday. it is written by the partner to his partner’s parents. it is sooo good.


Post # 19
2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Oh also if she slaps you upside the head again, call the cops and have her charged with assault.

Post # 21
5883 posts
Bee Keeper

((((hugs)))) I like your un-edited version 🙂 It’s hard to be civil toward people like that, she should be ashamed of herself. If I were your mom I’d be reading her the riot act even if you’re a capable adult who can defend yourself-  evil auntie needs to know that others find her behaviour unacceptable and abhorent as well.

Post # 22
533 posts
Busy bee

I think you have been more than nice to this very difficult woman.

I also don’t think she is being a very good/effective advocate of the Catholic faith. Forcing people to follow a religion does not work.

I personally think the best way to share a religion is to try and be the best person you can as inspired by your faith. If that draws someone who is searching to look at your faith more closely, that’s wonderful.

I would probably write a letter like this:

“Thank you for thinking of me on my birthday and the lovely jewelry.

Unfortunately, I have been told by several very devout Catholics, that it is disrespectful to wear these religious symbols as fashion jewelry; so out of respect for the religion; I am returning the pieces to you.”

(As you can tell from the snarky letter, I have a ways to go.)

Post # 23
451 posts
Helper bee

Make it clear to you that if she assaults you again, you will be pressing charges. She needs to keep her hands (and her opinions) to herself.

Post # 24
462 posts
Helper bee

CookieLady:  I’m surprised at how polite some of these suggestions are. That shit would NOT fly with me in the slightest. Not only would I detail everything wrong with her gifts/notes I would request an apology. If she wasn’t willing to apologise I would make it perfectly clear that she is no longer welcome in my life.

Post # 25
211 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I agree with other posters. Send the gift back saying thanks but no thanks. That is beyond rude. I have no tolerance for people forcing religion on others.

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