- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I need some advice on what to do. My cousin got married a couple months ago and I was one of her bridesmaids, my wedding is next month and she is one of my bridesmaids. I bent over backwards for her and tried to be a great bridesmaid, because I love her and knew it was my duty as a bridesmaid. Since her wedding is over, it seems like she has become a different person. She’s great friends with a girl that I don’t get along so well with, so that has a BIG part to do with it. She always had an excuse when I tried to include her on dress shopping/bridal shows etc, she hasn’t been involved with anything with the planning, at my bridal shower she made a big deal about how she felt like she didn’t fit in. IMO she’s making herself that way and distancing herself from everyone. Her mom (my aunt) was all upset about it at the bridal shower and I decided that I had enough. So, a week ago I wrote her a huge letter of how I missed her blah blah blah. Trying to make peace with her, she thanked me for writing the letter and promised she would write me back the following day, then when that didn’t happen she promised the following day. The bridesmaid dresses came In last Wednesday and I sent all my girls a text, she is the only one that didn’t respond. Saturday I got a call from the Dress shop, stating that they needed to know if my cousin needed extra fabric and that they recommended her getting it (she is a couple months pregnant), they stated without the fabric they didn’t think the dress would fit. Also, the fabric has to be ordered asap, because it takes 4 weeks to come in and my wedding is in 5 weeks. I called her and set her several text messages she never responded. Then yesterday after attempting to contact her several times..so finally I was upset enough that I sent her a text and said if she didn’t want to be in the wedding that she needed to let me know, because I was tired of the games. She sent me a message telling me I was being crazy and that there was nothing that she could do about the dress because she was going to be on vacation for the next week. This isn’t fair, I’m not stressed about the wedding, but I am very stressed and hurt over this situation. I just don’t know what to do.. Everyone tells me that it’s her problem and if the dress doesn’t fit her, then it’s her problem. But, it’s my wedding and we’ve been cousins and friends since we were babies. It just seems like she doesn’t care and my wedding isn’t any concern to her 🙁 What would you do?