Post # 1
So we are 5 months into the planning process and it seems like everyone on my fiances side has an opinion .It all started with our engagement pictures…. I had sent them to my fiances mother via email and she writes back comments about certain ones that she thought were good and others that she thought were not . Currently she is paying for the flowers so when I find something that I like I try to keep her in the loop and let her know about then. I sent her a picture of a bouquet and she writes back how they didnt excite her. Are you kidding me? I just feel like even if they arent flowers that she would use for a wedding, I happen to like them so the least she could do is be supportive. Dont get me wrong his mother and i get along great most of the time but since the wedding planning has started thats when the opinions started.
This is just a small idea of what has been going on with my planning and honestly it makes me want this day to be over with. Sorry for venting but what do you guys think . Am I alone or is anyone else having similar issues?
Post # 3
Just about everyone goes through this. I am paying for the vast majority of my wedding, but it hasn’t stopped the unsolicited opinions. You know what they say, “opinions are like a..holes, everyone has one”. Smile and don’t solicit opinions on anything until payment is due. It just comes with the territory.
Post # 4
You definately aren’t alone. FI’s parents are the similiar–they have an opinion on everything– we should rent a bus to transport people to the wedding since it is 15 minute drive from the hotel, we need a honeymoon, why are you sending save the dates and what are they, etc. What I find funny is that they have all these opinions and ideas, but aren’t contributing a dime to pay for them.
I just give them an “I’ll think about it” or “I’ll look into it” and never bring it up again.
Post # 5
I agree, almost everyone goes through this at some point in the wedding planning process! Mine has mostly been between me and my dad…. He’s can be very traditional, and throw in the fact that I’m an only child! He’s definitely had his say throughout the process. And pretty much everyone, family and friends both, say that I’m crazy for getting married in the middle of January in MN! Then I have a grandma and uncles from England, so they have their own views on how things should be done. So it happens a lot to everyone… you kinda just have to respect their views and figure out a way to incorporate your ideas with theirs to make the day that much more special, while still getting what you want 🙂