- Bella Luna
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Ok, so our save the dates have been addressed, stamped and ready go to for 2+ weeks now… but I am having second thoughts about sending 3 of them. Here’s why:
My biological mom’s side of the family has a long-lived feud with my dad’s side of the family, to say the least (my parents are divorced). So basically, last weekend, my aunt was supposed to come and get my sister for the afternoon – she shows up 30+ minutes late with a multitude of excuses, etc. My dad was upset, I was upset, and after I told her 5+ times that I ‘didn’t want to get involved/into it (the drama)’ she made a scene in public, at my sister’s sporting event (in front of other athletes, parents, etc). Wow. Ridiculous. Although my aunt has done a lot for me in the past, she seems to cause a lot of trouble now a days. I try not to let the feuding between the 2 sides of my family affect my relationship with either side, but it really hurt me that she continued to drag me into it after I told her I wanted no part of it. I have a save the date for her and her 2 sons (my cousins), but I am not so sure I want to invite them after that. FYI: I have no issue with either of my cousins and they don’t partake in the drama and somehow are left out of it. Fiance and I were talking and he said he’s 100% behind me if I want to toss their save the dates and not invite them. He said he would support whichever decision I make but that he’s really not happy with her completely ignoring my wishes to stay out of the drama.
Thoughts? Should I still invite her & my cousins? If it matters, this is the 3rd time she’s done this sort of thing in the last 6 months (and it’s becoming more frequent).
Thanks. This is such a hard thing for me to decide, so I figured who would know better than the bees!