(Closed) Family Drama and Save the Dates

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

First of all, don’t send the save the dates. You could always decide to invite her later, and Save-The-Date Cards are necessary for that. Don’t panic! You’ve got time to think.

Post # 4
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Yeah, I’m with Labor on this one.  Just don’t send them STDs–that way, if you decide you want to invite them later, you can, but if you decide you don’t want to, they didn’t get save the dates.  We moved to a new town right after we got engaged, and there are plenty of people here that got invites to the wedding, but didn’t get save the dates.  We just didn’t know how close we’d be by the time the wedding rolled around.  You can see how you’re feeling about the situation when the day gets closer.  Meanwhile, I’m sorry you’re dealing with this!

Post # 5
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m with the other bees. I would hold on to them and just decide when you send out your invites. Have you talked to your aunt about this? I would 100% voice my concern that if invited to the wedding you fear she will cause drama and make a scene when it’s really not about her disliking your fathers family or father etc but about the marriage of you and Fiance. I would then see how she acts in the upcoming months and see if she is trying to be better. If not then don’t send an invite.

Post # 6
257 posts
Helper bee

I would just flat out let her know. “Look, if you can’t respect my wishes to be left out of this family drama, despite me asking you before, I don’t know if you can be a part of my life anymore– esp. my wedding. The choice is up to you.”

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