Post # 1
My bridal shower is tomorrow.
My Mom is an alcoholic who almost never goes to functions, and it is totally unpredictable how she will behave.
My step-mother will also be there. My Dad cheated on my Mom after 30 years of marriage (they were unhappy) with my stepmom, left my Mom for her and married her. So my Mom only sees her as the ‘other woman’. It’s only been a few years since my Dad re-married.
It will the first time ever meeting for my Mom and Stepmom.
It will be the first function my Mom has gone to in a loooooooong time.
My Mother-In-Law has become good friends with my Stepmom since she is more active in my life and with the wedding planning.
Oh lordy, lordy…this could go a million shades of awkward.
Post # 3
It could be, but I hope it goes well. Hopefully they will be mature enough to put differences aside for your special events!
Post # 4
Hopefully they will respect that fact that it is a special day for you and act accordingly. good luck!
Post # 5
You never know. It could be ok. I have mother/step mother issues with my in-laws. They don’t care for each other, but when it came to my shower they were both great with each other and even chatted a bit. I was shocked and wonderfully surprised. Hoping and praying it happens the same way for you!
Post # 6
There was a very similar situation at my best friend’s shower where the groom’s mom and “the other woman” were both there and it was the first time they would be meeting as well. It was fine, they just ignored each other and stayed out of each others way so I’ll be hoping for the same for you. We’ll be thinking about you tomorrow!
Post # 7
Can you assign your Maid/Matron of Honor or a bridesmaid to just guide your mother to ensure no drinking/scenes happen. Just generally keep an eye on her and try to steer her away from any issues?
Post # 8
@missbumblebee: That’s really sweet, thanks
Post # 9
Oh, tough situation–I feel for you. I hope they can set aside their differences for your shower. Hang in there! At the end of everything, you will be married to your Fiance, and that’s what matters.
Post # 10
@Sunshine09: Wow…that sounds like a fun family function! Hopefully things will go well…one way to help keep things calm might be to let your Maid/Matron of Honor know what’s going on so she can kind of be the “peacemaker” so that you won’t get too stressed out…perhaps keeping the mom and stepmom in separate rooms most of the party might help? Good luck hun! I hope it’s a great party for you 🙂
Post # 11
I hope all goes well for you. I will be thinking of you and sending positive thoughts and vibes!