- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
I was married to my husband on 11/12 and it was magical. I loved our wedding, the day, the friends we were surrounded by. And, honestly, it’s the magic I think about most.
Of course, however, there just had to be drama. Honestly, I wasn’t really expecting it. I was just finishing with my make up when my dad called to inform me that he’s not coming because his tux doesn’t fit. A bit of backstory: my dad is disabled and has a hard time talking. He has good days and bad days, but I know his condition, and I know he could have walked me down the aisle. I was planning on having him and my mom do it (they’re divorced), so I ended up having my mom only. And honestly, it was great. My mom is not a crier, but she just couldn’t stop herself on wedding day. And it reminded me just how special my mom is – another benefit from the wedding.
In any case, it comes out later that Dad was embarrased that he may not be able to say “we do” at the appropriate moment (never mind the fact that he could nod, and mom could talk). He just didn’t want to be in front of people. Nevermind the fact that I’m getting married and I had hoped that my Dad would want to share that with me. Apparently not. It was infuriating and honestly, sad. So, I saw Dad at the reception, took a picture, and haven’t seen him or talked to him since. I wish he would have said something a long time ago, if this was his plan, and not sprung it on me on the day of the wedding. Of course, I also had to cancel the Father/Daughter dance.
Fast forward to the end of our honeymoon, when we get a call from DH’s brother letting us know that his mom, grandmother and brother felt “shit on” at the wedding. Turns out, they had been expecting us to introduce them during the wedding party intros? Brother wasn’t in the wedding, and Mom refused to do the mother/son dance a few weeks before. We introduced the wedding party. That was it. Then, seems like she wanted Darling Husband and I to walk her around the reception and introduce her to all of our friends. This is not how I planned on spending the entirety of my wedding reception. Introduce yourself. Be outgoing. Seems like she didn’t feel special enough at our wedding (nevermind being in the program, the corsage, and the reserved ceremony seating).
I type all of this to vent and to let everyone know that even if your family (or someone else) behaves ridiculously, your wedding can still be amazing. I married Darling Husband, we’re a family now, and I couldn’t be happier.