(Closed) FAMILY DRAMA – NEED ADVICE

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Regardless of her crazy behavior, you send her a thank you card. It’s extremely rude on your behalf not to, and you should rise above the petty behavior and be the better person. Plus she gave you $1000. How can you not send a thank you card for that?

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Be the bigger person. Send a simple thank you for your monitary gift. Love Mr and Mrs. so and so. Can I ask why you are just now sending out thank you cards when your wedding was in October?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

You need to send a thank you card. It would be extremely rude of you not too, even though she sounds like a crazy person.

Post # 6
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853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You send a thank you card to thank her for the gift.  That’s all.

It was a gift.  There were no conditions placed on the gift like “if you don’t like how we behave then you can’t keep the gift” because then it becomes a loan.  Honestly what good would come from returning it?  Will that make you feel better over how they behaved?  Will that make them feel better over how you responded?

I think you should send a thank you card graciously thanking her for the gift.  That is your role as the recipient.  If you choose to not reach out to her after that, that is you and your DH’s decision.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would send a thank you card at least to your Mother-In-Law. Just keep it short and sweet. You don’t want that to come back and haunt you later in he marriage. As far as the alcholic disrespectful 17 year old there is really nothing you can do about it but just distance your new family away from the drama. I’m sorry your wedding turned out to be a nightmare. ((( hugs)))

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Just send a thank you card. Don’t sink down to her level. If she does contact you, keep her at an arm’s length, but you have to do the proper thing.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@mriddagh0831:  Where are you located? Sorry where I am, it’s proper to send a thank you up to 2 months after the wedding.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@RoyalLime:  I think she gave a good explantion as to why she is only writing cards now, but does it really matter why? It’s not really relevant to her original post…

OP…yes I think you have to write a thank you card, but keep it short and simple.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sillysillybee:  I wasn’t trying to be rude. It was an honest question.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Yes, absolutely send a short and sweet card.

She sounds kinda crazy and I’m sorry her drama impacted your wedding day… but I wonder if this is worth entirely cutting off contact with her?  

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It sucks when you’ve had a great relationship in the beginning and it then falls apart, I’ve been there too – my Future Mother-In-Law and I was the best of friends, and now we don’t even know if she will attend the wedding because of all the drama.

 

In your case, I would send a generic thank you card – not a personalised one. Just pre-printed, photo, and perhaps a signature at most.

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