- 7 years ago
I’m a regular poster but for the sake of preventing any further drama (just in case my Future Sister-In-Law is on weddingbee) I’m posting under this username. Now, I realize that this may seem like a minor issue but it has me reeling mainly because I feel that my brother and his fiance have disrespected my family. And I really need opinions as to whether I should voice my opinion or keep quiet. Here’s the situation:
My parents helped my brother and his fiance (who are both in their mid-twenties and have jobs) to buy their first home. My parents contributed a great deal financially, and made it clear to my brother at the time that he could use the money for the house or the wedding. He said he would use it for the house. This was two months ago. Now they are in the midst of wedding planning and low and behold they expect $ from my parents. Well, my parents told them that unfortunately they didn’t have any money left to give since they gave so much towards the house. My brother and his fiance said OK, but it was clear to my parents that they were not pleased. Ever since that conversation, my brother has cut off contact with my parents–as in he doesn’t answer his phone or contact my parents.
I’m so angry with my brother for acting like he is entitled to anything after my parents gave him and his fiance SO MUCH. I am also upset with his fiance for not having the courtesy of telling my parents that she would not even expect money from them after they helped them out for the house. Rather, she was sweetly trying to convince them that $200 a person for the wedding reception doesn’t really come out to all that much (as in, it shouldn’t be a problem for my parents to pay that much). I think it is very telling that once my parents told them that they didn’t have money for the wedding, neither my brother or his fiance come around anymore.
I’m torn because I want to tell my brother how much he is hurting my parents by acting like this. But at the same time I know this is not my business. I just hate to see him treat them like they are a bank account. In fact, my brother at some point told my parents that if they didn’t contribute to the house (which they did) he and his fiance wouldn’t come around! Well, now that they aren’t contributing to the wedding, that is exactly what has happened. UGH I’m so mad!!!!
Bees what do you think of this situation?