(Closed) family drama .. need to vent

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

You are totally allowed to have a small intimate wedding right in your town. You don’t need to have a far-flung destination to justify inviting only the people that you want.

What I would say about deciding between a big and a small wedding for you is to imagine what they would be like when it is your family involved. What would make a wedding fun to you? And what can you achieve with the family you have? Good luck!

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

What about best of both worlds?  A small intimate wedding that’s a destination yet within driving or train distance for your FI’s parents?

I am walking this line too with regards to where.

Maybe a vineyard with a romantic bed and breakfast nearby?  How about a beach within reach with a wonderful elegant dinner afterward? 

You CAN have both.  I am going to have both.  Intimate but destination somehow.

Just get creative.  You can always have a cocktail party w/reaffirmation of vows with your minister for all the relatives back home.  That way the deed will already be done, you’re not leaving them out, and their b*tching and whining will all be a moot point because you’re already married!

Post # 5
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7053 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

And you can blame all of it on the economy as to why you didn’t have the big, fat wedding with everybody and their second cousin invited! 

Post # 6
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271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We both have certain undesirables in our families so me and the Mr. decided to keep our wedding as small as possible and only invite the family that we have to invite. My goal is 40 people. I have never been the big wedding type so this decision wasn’t that hard for me

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I agree with the other posters.  Try to see if you picture your wedding with all of the family or not.  If you think a smaller wedding is better and would like some other destination to throw some excitement into it, why not try for a destination within driving distance?

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