(Closed) Family drama – not inviting them to the wedding? (kinda long)

posted 7 years ago in Family
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  • Wedding: November 1999

Ugh, tricky situation. I’ve got my own family craziness to deal with, so I understand the awkward spot you’re in. With this situation it seems more about just petty arguments or angry people, but no one’s come to blows or had any massive blow outs. I’d first talk to Fiance to see what he wants to do…invite Uncle no matter what his folks say? Take their desires into consideration? Or just do what they ask?

Then, you as a couple could talk with Future In-Laws and see if they can set aside issues if Uncle and his fam are invited. Then, the extra sucky part, talk to the uncle. State that you know the issues between him and Future In-Laws somewhat and that since you love them both, you’d like them both to set aside differences and enjoy the day. If he doesn’t feel he can do that, it’s his decision, but you will not have your wedding being a battle ground. (This should mostly be FI’s deal, since it’s his family.)

With your fam, I’d talk to your aunt an uncle first, and basically have the whole ‘please set aside differences’ discussion with your cousin. They all are family and they should all love you enough to be adults for the day. If they don’t think they can, then that’s their choice. Best of luck, it’s a rough situation but people may surprise you 🙂

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