Post # 1
I have 4 older sisters and through 2 of them- I have 7 neices and nephews. 2 of my neices are of flower girl age . Abby is my oldest sisters daughter. I was the Flower Girl in her moms wedding and closest to Abby so I had been planning on picking Abby since I met my Fiance. But my other older sister quickly met and married her new husband before Fiance and I. My older sister picked Abby as Flower Girl. Carol was very upset when my sister chose abby and basically unknowingly to me – they all left it up to me to have Aydia. Carol was VERY upset that Aydia would never get a chance to be a flower girl and I’m her only chance.(Carol has a past of over reacting/ jealousy issues. She ran out crying and went home from vaca early when Joan was pregnant and announced it was a girl. – Her 2 kids at the time were both boys) So to say I don’t want to deal with the drama from Carol would be an understatement.
I had picked Abby 2 years before my older sister even MET her husband but she got married first so she got to pick. ugh! I didn’t ask anyone yet – I just told my mom and she basically had picked my flowergirl for me. In a complete panicked voice – “We thought you were going to pick Aydia! Carol is going to be crushed! You cant do this! ….yada yada yada” I got her to settle down by saying i’d consider having two flower girls.
I had originally planned on having carols oldest son as Ring Bearer and Abby (Joans oldest) as my Flower Girl. Stupid me I thought that was “fair”. I still want both of those and I am going to pick both of those. But, I really only want one Flower Girl and one Ring Bearer but i don’t want to deal with the drama. The question remains Do I pick Aydia as a second Flower girl to appease my sister and prevent family drama? IF so – do I pick carols other son (RB at my sisters wedding) Or is there another role to give Aydia IN the wedding to make Carol happy?
Post # 3
I think you should do 2 Flower Girl and 2 Ring Bearer and that way, everyone is included and everyone feels special.
Post # 4
I had to read your post twice as the whole thing is a little confusing. I find this situation to be completely ridiclous this child life isn’t going to end because she not a flower girl at someone wedding. Pick who you want, and tell your sister that who in your wedding party and to get over it.
Post # 6
I love weddings with multiple flower girls.
Post # 7
We have no bridal party and yet, we have multiple FGs. People love Ring Bearer and Flower Girl (unless they’re the angry, upset, and “clearly hates this role” type RB/FG). I would just have all the kids as it’s more the merrier, assuming they are all mature enough to handle the “responsibility”. In addition, since their parents are more of the pushy ones, I would see if they would cover the outfits. Then all you need to get would be flowers/something to carry (if you like) and a small gift for each (e.g. toy).
Post # 8
This. Is the reason why I don’t have any flower girls or ringbearers. Too difficult to choose with multiple young cousins in the fam. Your wedding is a clean slate, no matter who had who in a sibling’s wedding. That being said…
I would suggest having both little girls in. Multiple FGs are adorable, as are multiple RBs. Or just don’t have any.
Post # 9
@TwoCityBride: well to normal people, yes you are right. And in many situations non wedding related – we have tried. We think she has some sort of social disability – undiagnosed. I havent been on very good terms with her. But I have enough stress with my wedding – I don’t know what she’ll do and i’m not sure i want to find out. :/
Post # 10
@Kate0558: If you think she will behave then by all means do it. I had 4 FGs and no Ring Bearer. It was cute. Make sure her mother pays for all her accessories though and if she starts acting jealous feel fre to relieve the Flower Girl of her responsbilities.