Post # 1
Ladies family drama is real!!! . I announced I was engaged in august of 2013. Within the next few months we asked our bridesmaids and groomsmen to be in our wedding party. Considering that we have no family members that are flower girl aged, we asked a friend of ours daughter who’s 7 to be our flower girl. Jon has 3 nephews ages 8 2 and 10 months. the older 2 are our ring bearers and we extended the same offer to the 10 month olds mother but she said she would like to be child free. That was perfectly fine with us.
So jump to today, almost a year later, I get a RSVP back from my aunt who lives about 20 mins away from us. She said she will not be attending. My aunt has a tendency to be very selfish, opinionated and irrational. So Im talking to my sister about it and so she texts her. my aunt stated that although she was sorry she couldn’t make it, she was also pissed that her daughter (34 yoa) & her grand kids (girl age 11 boy age 8 and boy age 3) were not in my wedding. She stated it was only right since my siblings and I were in her daughters wedding 12 years ago.
Let me tell you I have no relationship with this family besides going to yearly birthday parties for the 3 kids. The two oldest are very very shy almost socialably challenged. Example we don’t sing happy birthday to the 11 year old anymore because she cries and hides under the table when we do. So I didn’t even consider them to be in the party.
So now I’m annoyed because 1 I didn’t want a big bridal party (Jon has 3 sisters and we only asked 1 to be in the wedding because it would have been too large) and 2 I don’t even talk to my cousin like that. We might like each others facebook pictures or leave a comment randomly.
So now that whole family is vetoing my wedding and not coming because they dont think it’s fair. I invited each one of them totaling 7 seats. I know I just need to forget it but it makes me sooo mad I want to scream!!! It’s not going to ruin my wedding day but it ruined my day today!!! Urgh rant over
Post # 2
DanielleI: I never understand why brides are so bent out of shape when obviously crazy people decide not to come to the wedding.
Post # 3
Yeah, it sounds like this lady and her family members obviously aren’t playing with a full deck, if you know what I mean.
There is no drama, just some odd people pulling problems put of thin air and finding offense where there simply isn’t any. If what you say is true, you made logical decisions and you’re not to blame for anything.
I know it’s frustrating, but this is most likely a blessing in disguise. You now don’t have to deal with any of these people at your wedding, and hopefully not for the rest of this whole process.
Shake your head at this odd behavior and then keep going about your business. This silly issue doesn’t even deserve your attention.
Post # 4
The thing is she’s my aunt. I would think she would want to be there for her nieces wedding. But unfortunately no.
Post # 5
DanielleI: I would chalk this up as a win. You’re not paying for seven bratty and socially-challenged people (who you aren’t even close to) to come eat food at your expense. Your aunt wants to upset you with her snide comments and boycott, so the best thing to do is rise above it and ignore this whole drama.
Post # 6
I can’t believe when people still get upset over the whole “you were in my wedding so I need to be in your wedding”. If you aren’t close to someone then why would you want to be in their wedding? For all the work that it (properly) entails, i would only do it for someone that im actually close to! maybe you should have a convo with them and explain why reasoning behind it and then they will come?
Post # 7
Your aunt is crazy! It doesn’t matter what happened 12 years ago! If you’re not close to her then why would you put her in your wedding? I have a cousin that went through a similar situation but she just did her own thing. I couldn’t imagine not going to my niece’s wedding.
Post # 8
julies1949: right? The less crazy guests in attendance, the better.
Post # 9
You are sooo lucky! Imagine what could happen if these people decided to attend, and then act-up at your wedding? I read a story online, where someone dressed their daughter (not in the bridal party) up as a flower girl, and then pushed her down the aisle, ahead of the bride.
It’s incredulous that so many people think they have a vote, in the wedding plans of others. It happens all the time, though.