(Closed) FAMILY DRAMA OVER GUEST LIST

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m in the same position, but Future Mother-In-Law is the problem…

Post # 18
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You know what I saw my older sister go through the same thing but it was her mother in law who was tripping because she wanted to control the guest list and she wasn’t even paying for the wedding. And my fiance’s saw his mother go crazy when his brother got married. So to avoid any wedding planning and wedding day drama, we’ve decided not to send out wedding invitations but invites to what the guests will believe to be a party for the two of us since our birthdays are within two weeks of each other. The wedding day is actually a week before my fiance’s birthday and a week after mine. We’ll send out the invites 3 weeks before. Our wedding party will consist only of our closest friends. We are only inviting 140 people. This way no body can give us any grief about our plans and no one will know what they’re actually attending.

I love it.

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

First of all, I completely agree that it’s your dime, your day, your way. Period. But I think you have to decide what “future you” will think of the situation. Are you going to be really upset in a few years (or maybe have crazy regrets day of) if they aren’t there? When you are showing your pictures to your kids one day, would it be painful to explain missing family?

For me, family is family. IMO you should definately NOT give in, but you shouldn’t cut them out for being annoying. Because that is what they are being, a huge giant pain in the butt (from what it should like). And family is never perfect! Unless they are physically mailing out invitations to unwanted guests, I would take the high road and still invite them, and leave it up to them to see whether or not they can attend without their beloved friends. Don’t fan the flames, I think you should invite your family.

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