(Closed) Family Drama Over location

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

Is it more important for you to have the picturesque location or to have your closest family there? How close are you to FI’s family in Florida? If your priority if having your closest UK family there, I think I would want to have a small wedding in the UK, especially since that’s where you live. It’s really nice that you’re paying to fly out your mothers to the wedding, but I too would feel bad about not flying out other important people. You can always honeymoon in Florida if that place has sentimental value to you.

That said, the wedding belongs to you and your Fiance. Do what you feel is right for you two even if it doesn’t jive with all your guests. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Grace19:  Have you considered eloping or having an intimate wedding somewhere with just parents, grandparents and siblings and then having a celebration party in Florida and the UK? Because it will just be a celebration party rather than a reception it should be cheaper and could be more casual. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

The best advice I got on the bee when planning my destination wedding was when I read someone else’s story which went something like this. ( sorry, wasn’t able to find the original post!)

A bee and her Fiance had their heart set on this adult only property somewhere in the Caribean. Problem was, her relatives had kids and she felt bad that they would not be able to bring their kids. They compromised to a lesser hotel, which allowed kids, especially for that family. Well after everything was said and done, they had the wedding at that hotel, didn’t like it as much and regreting having made this choice, especially because the family didn’t even show up in the end! Her group was comprised of strictly adults so they could have gone where they wanted originally.

Moral of the story is that destination weddings are always going to be an inconvenience for some of your group. I just had to accept that, pick what WE really wanted, and deal with the consequences! I didn’t want to make any special concessions for people who may not even end up coming. This is always a risk with destination weddings so you may as well go with the place you want!

That’s what we ended up doing and I haven’t looked back since : )

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