Post # 46
TheGridMonster: Per the usual, I absolutely agree with TheGridMonster’s good advice. But OP, I am SO SORRY they had this reaction. It is mind blowing sometimes the things that other people get attached to in other people’s weddings. FWIW I think your ring is beautiful, and love the way it looks on your hand. Again, I am sorry you are going through this at what should be a happy time. My best wishes to you.
Post # 47
noms…cake: rose cuts are my faaaaaavorite!! that’s what i’m really hoping to have for my e-ring but am learning that they are a little more difficult to find. so, in my eyes, you’re a very lucky girl to have such an antique-looking stone with so much character! that being said, that reaction to ANY ring is way over-the-top and dramatic. have they ever acted like that over anything else in the past?
Post # 48
DonnaNoble: Thank you so much for your kind reply, it’s really appreciated! Also, I LOVE your username. Donna is my favorite!
Post # 49
noms…cake: Well, if they need to “test” your Fiance with a non-existant heirloom ring, then there is something seriously wrong with your parents. They are way too worried about what others think. I hope they are someday able to see what idiots they are and can accept your engagement.
Post # 50
noms…cake: Haha, YES! Donna was my all time favorite! 🙂 🙂 You clearly have great taste, so trust yourself in this whole debacle. What’s meant to be will work out, and your own happiness should be key. Hang in there! HUGS
Post # 51
magnoliabee: I got a small flower tattoo on my ankle when I was 18. Their reaction was so extreme you’d have thought that I had just confessed to murder. They didn’t talk to me for months, when my mom saw it she cried for days. Actual days. She told me between sobs that I’d never be able to get married now that I was “marked like some trash” and that I’d probably die of hepatitis. So that was fun. They’re STILL not entirely over it either.
ETA: I’m 26. So that’s 8 years that they’ve been stewing over that.
Post # 52
noms…cake: Your parents sound incredibly shallow. I think you’ll save yourself a lot of drama by not including them in your wedding planning at all aside from their role in it all.
I hate to say it, but given their reaction to your ring, I’d consider eloping.
ETA: The ring is beautiful and unique. Your parents are also crazy as well as shallow.
Post # 53
noms…cake: If you’re crazy, that’s my kind of crazy!
Post # 54
noms…cake: Your ring is magnificent!! I love rose cut diamonds and the setting is so perfect!! Congratulations on your engagement and very best wishes for much joy in the planning process.
Please do your best NOT to react to your mother’s outbursts. Don’t let anyone ruin your joy and this wonderful time in your life.
Post # 55
Your ring is BEAUTIFUL! And even if I didn’t think so (who cares what I think?), it’s *your* opinion that really matters here. Absolutely no one else’s. I am feeling a lot of sympathy toward you now for your obviously judgemental, rude and violet (yes, throwing objects in order to frighten and manipulate people is considered violent) family. It’s a hard decision for you to make, but if you do end up leaving them out of the wedding then explain to them that their behavior made it necessary. And if others question you about it, tell them that they were angry about your ring and THREW A PLATE. God, I can’t believe that D:
Post # 56
WOW I LOVE IT! Seriously. I was dying for a hexagon ring and kept hinting at it for like 2 or 3 months, and then he proposed with something he had for about a year. I felt bad for bothering him when he already got one! LOL But yeah, yours is gorgeous. Who cares what other people think as long as you love it <3
Post # 57
I can’t believe anyone would care that much about someone else’s ring!! Personally I think your ring is beautiful!! Just try your best to wear your ring with pride and explain to your family members that their reaction is superficial and very hurtful.
Post # 58
Your parents need to get the fuck over themselves. I would say your mom in particular is acting like a cunt, but it doesn’t sound like she has the depth. (Or the warmth).
Your ring looks very unique and pretty. I love flaws in diamonds, they remind us the universe isn’t perfect, neither is love, and that with great age comes quirks.
Post # 59
babeba: You just made me fall over laughing. You honestly couldn’t have said it better.
Post # 60
noms…cake: you need to distance yourself from your f*ed up family before they ruin your relationship and your life.