(Closed) Family drama over ring

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 61
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308 posts
Helper bee

Ts a disgrace the way your parents are overeaxciting over your e ring btw iits gorgeous but the best way to shut them up is giving them the silent treatment just ignore them don’t talk to them it’ll hopefully make them realise that they are in the wrong not you. And I completely understand your feeling of taking them out of the wedding I think you should if rhey don’t grow up. Hope this helps x 

Post # 63
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267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

noms…cake:  This may not be about the ring at all. Sometimes parents can freak out a little bit when their baby girl first gets engaged and throw little tantrums about strange things. Trust me, my parents went on a similar tirade shortly after I got engaged about what time of year we would get married (I wanted October 2014, but we are now getting married in April 2015 because of this). My mom and dad were so freaked out they yelled at me for a good three hours about how “f**ed up” everything would be with me sobbing on the couch and wondering what the heck happened to my sweet parents. I think it was their way of coping with the shock of me being engaged/growing up, because it was DEFINITELY out of character for them and they had been totally supportive up until that point. Think of a not-nearly-as-funny version of Steve Martin’s character’s hotdog meltdown in the grocery store in Father of the Bride. Just a different perspective from personal experience.

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

noms…cake:  I think the ring is absolutely beautiful! Tbh, that in this instance your parents sound shallow, but I also think (based on what I’ve observed here on WB, in person, and on other wedding forums) that having a flawless, large, real diamond ring seems much more important in the US than in other countries. 

You can always tell your parents that in Sweden the traditional engagement ring is usually just a plain, sometimes carved, band, and that a wedding ring can either be a small diamond ring or another plain/carved band ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

Post # 65
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317 posts
Helper bee

noms…cake:  First of all, that ring is cool. I’ve never seen anything like it and it’s awesome. Secondly, your parents’ reaction is plain rude. Even though you designed the ring, it was still a gift from your Fiance and their reaction is incredibly disrespectful of your Fiance and your future marriage. I wouldn’t tolerate that bullshit and I would tell them so. I wouldn’t make a single excuse or offer a single explanation for the ring – all I would say is that their behavior disgusting and stuck up and give them the option of either being respectful of ALL of your decisions in your wedding planning or they lose the privilege of being involved. So sorry this happened. But congrats on the engagement!!

Post # 66
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39 posts
Newbee

Honestly, I also find it gorgeous. It’s so unique. It reminds me of nature.

 

But at the same time I understand your mom issues. My mom can be a little uppity (is that the word?) I’d lose my shit if she acted this way, but I have a strong personality. If acceptance is important to you. I would try emailing your mom a few of the post from here or another site show casing other brides unique engagment rings. 

 

Although, I’m also a fan of giving her a big F you, and living happily ever after.

 

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Post # 67
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684 posts
Busy bee

like the song says let it go… i have stopped caring what my family thinks of anything anymore.

Post # 68
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677 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

noms…cake:  your ring is beautiful and wear it with pride. Don’t worry about what any body thinks. Even your mum. 

both my e rings are traditional White diamond and people at work ( I work in jewellery) always ask me about my chooses or make negative comments. However I love my rings and that’s all that matters x

Post # 69
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Honey bee

Uhhh what? Are they always so crazy?

I love your ring! And even if it wasn’t nice, who goes into a seething, plate throwing rage over someone else’s engagement ring?! Like, if it was that bad, why would they be angry at YOU? Shouldn’t they be sad for you/mad at your Fiance for picking it out? (I mean, that would be a logical response if your ring was truly terrible. Which it isn’t.) 

Post # 70
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

noms…cake:  Whhhhaaatttttttttt?! That shit is crazy.

Take some time to cool down, see if you can have a rational conversation. If not, proceed without parental support. I’m sorry that this happened to you. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 71
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370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Surrey, BC, Canada

Sounds like your parents are being ridiculous. By The Way I think your ring is gorgeous! I love the geometric shape of it and the sides are awesome. Not sure of the proper ring terms but you get what  I mean. Most importantly, it’s YOUR ring!!! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 72
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Bumble Beekeeper

Wow, they are being very judgy. A ring is only a ring! FWIW, I think it’s very nice and unique.

Post # 73
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I thought my parents were bad.

Post # 74
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1112 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Weird that your mom was so shocked by your ring. You showed her a picture months ago, your previous post said. 

Post # 75
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I didn’t get to read everyone’s comments, but YIKES! I don’t think I’d include them in on ANYTHING wedding planning wise, accept no help from them (financial or otherwise). I’m so sorry for you, this should be an incredibly exciting time in your life, don’t let them ruin it.

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