(Closed) Family Drama….UGH

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Who's right, me or mom?
    Me : (19 votes)
    100 %
    Mom : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    581 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Neither is right.  Your Grandma should be allowed to come and bring her boyfriend but not her friend.  Your mom should not be yelling at you, though, since it is ultimately your choice.

    Could you not offer to get a nurse’s aid for the day or talk with any other family members about bringing him?  I understand what you are saying, but your grandmother watches him all the time, maybe she wants to let loose.

    Post # 5
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    131 posts
    Blushing bee

    Well, I do not get why your grandma gets to bring also her best friend honestly, bringing her boyfriend is somewhat understandable, but her best friend?

    As for your great grand father, I think he should be there. As gingerlylove said, can you get a nurse or maybe talk to 2 family members so they can split the time between them? I think you are very lucky that he is still alive and gets to see you on this very special day so why deny it to him

    Post # 6
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    1015 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think you’re right – 100 percent. If she complains about having to watch him, tell her you would consider it your wedding gift. It’s your day and you’re paying. She should want him there as much as you do! Good luck and I hope he gets to see you walk down the aisle.

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Hire a nurse and kidnap your grandfather for the day. Well, maybe not kidnap because that’s a crime but let your Grandmother know you are willing to assume responsibility for his care to, from, and during the wedding. As for the guest list, you and Fiance control that. If you don’t want the random friend coming, let your Grandmother know. However, it may help to convince her to bring your Great Grandfather if you allow her to bring her companions.

    Post # 8
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    581 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @soonergirl518:  Then that makes much more sense.  I understand why you don’t want him there and it is random and rude of her to bring an additional plus one; however, keep in mind you are still trying to dictate someone’s plus one so be sensitive about that.

    Good Luck!

    Post # 10
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    3969 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Although the Boyfriend or Best Friend is questionable, I would give her the plus 1, though nix this friend situation (what? so weird). I would hire a nurse for the day for your GGP. Being a caretaker (especially with dementia) is hard. I can understand why your Groomsmen doesn’t want to bring him. I don’t think it’s to spite you, but maybe hiring a personal caretaker for the day, you can compromise.

    Post # 11
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    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    This thread makes me sad. I’m sure your great-grandpa would love to come to the wedding. I hope you can hire a nurse or someone for a day to look after him so he can come. Best of luck to you.

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