Post # 1
Hi bee’s, I am asking this question and looking for advice on behalf of a friend. Here is her situation..
Her only sister recently left her common law husband (with child) for another man, her boss! (2 months ago) The thing is of course my friend is quite close to her sister’s common law still as he was a part of the family for 14 years and still has my friends niece in his care. Again, it has only been 2 months and she chose to leave her daughter with him.
My friends sister is now saying that she will not stand as her maid of honor nor come to her wedding if my friend doesn’t disinvite the common law husband..
What would you guys do?..
Post # 4
Say okay, sorry you will miss the wedding.
Just because she decided to move on from her family, does not mean everyone else has to.
Post # 5
If the only reason she left her husband is because she found another man, she’s being ridiculously immature. It’s her sister’s day, and her ex is still her sister’s friend. Your friend should explain that regardless of her sister’s choices, her ex has become a friend in his own right over the (many) years, and he will be there. If she chooses not to come, that’s her problem, though it will really really hurt her. If her sister makes that decision, she has bigger issues to work through than being in the same place as her ex.
Post # 6
Hmm, awkward situation. If I were your friend, I’d say tough cookies to my sister if only the CLhusband could/would bring the daugher to the wedding. IMO, if she left/cheated, she’s in the wrong, and while both her and CLBIL would have different relationships with me after a split, I wouldn’t treat him poorly or cut him out because of her choice. Especially if he was a friend of mine/became a friend during their relationship.
Post # 7
I would kick my sister the hell out of the wedding. That’s just insanely immature of her.
Post # 8
Thanks ladies for your advice! exact same I gave her! Strength in numbers works great though!!!!!!!