(Closed) Family Dynamics – who gets favored in your family?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: My parents favored...
    Me -- also for only children :) : (52 votes)
    35 %
    An older sibling : (26 votes)
    18 %
    A young sibling : (43 votes)
    29 %
    They were/are 100% equal : (26 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    400 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    shoot double post

    Post # 3
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    400 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @AmeliaBedelia:  I hate to say it but my younger sister alway got the shaft when i came to anything with my dad (parents are divorced) I dont know if its due to the fact that i am the loud outspoken one that always made sure that I got want I wanted (wow I sound spoiled!) but I honestly think its due to the fact that my sister never really stood up for herself so she never really got the attention that I did….. unfortunatly even to this day 🙁

    Post # 4
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I’m the oldest and my sister and I had totally different expectations growing up. I think that while we were developing and becoming adults, they favored me. I had better grades, played tons of sports, went off to college, etc. She didn’t do anything really and they treated her as such. No expectations set upon her. 

    As we got older and all of that encouragement made me a successful adult, she then “needed” them more. They now favor her. The best line I heard my Dad say was “the squeeky wheel gets the grease” when I brought it up once.

    Post # 5
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    4676 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t think either of us get favored over another.  My parents have always given me some sort of help when i needed it, and they have done this with my sister as well.  Sometimes I feel like my sister has gotten somethings that I would have liked (I am not as outspoken as she is and get kind of down when I hear that her and our mom did certain things together or she got my grandmas quilt), but I try to remember all that my parents have done for me that she hasn’t gotten (my parents helped me out with three cars in the past and she may have to buy her own sooner than I did) 

    Post # 9
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    4327 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    Older sister totally got more attention than I ever did. She’s 14 months older, but far more loud, abrasive, and demanding than I am.

    Post # 10
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    2416 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My younger brother gets favored but its because he’s difficult. He seems to always get into trouble and make poor decisions so my parents spend lots of their time bailing him out, giving him money, etc. I don’t take it personal, its just, even at 26 years of age, he still needs them more.

    Post # 11
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    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    As a child, my mother definitely favoured my brother. When my brother was a teen, my dad got really involved in my extracurricular activities and I definitely got less attention overall.

    Now, however, I think my parents like me better. Despite of some bumps in my road, my parents are really proud of me and my achievements and definitely have made attempts to show me that. Partly though, they just like my daughter :p

    Post # 12
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    1370 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I am the oldest, I have 1 full brother, 2 half brothers (mom and step-dad & dad and his 2nd wife) and a half-sister (dad & 2nd wife) – sorry if that doesn’t make sense.

    I would say it depends. My dad & his 2nd wife favored their children together. After they divorced, my dad favored my full brother. My mom and step-dad favor their son together. My mom shows more favor to the boys. My mom and I aren’t on speaking terms because she took up for my brothers and respected their wishes toward my wedding instead of my own.

    I’m the favorite of both sets of my grandparents. I lived with one set of grandparents through highschool  and consider my mom’s mom (my memama) to be my mom.

    Post # 13
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    2790 posts
    Sugar bee

    My sister, hands down. She is the middle child, the pleaser, the nonconfrontational, friendly, funny, smart one. She never got in trouble. She always did what my dad wanted and she worked for him for a very long time. She was the dream child and she still is. She’s the one who is married now with the first 3 grandchildren that my parents absolutely adore. As do I, don’t get me wrong.

    Both parents try to pretend that they don’t treat her better than my brother and I but they have admitted to it before. I totally admit that I have always been the loud independent youngest one with a LOT more issues with my parents divorce and my own personal issues. I always wanted to do things on my own and rarely wanted anyone elses’ help.

    Post # 14
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    14495 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I am not even going to lie, I am the favored child.  My sister is a ……. well not a nice word and my brother is far away with the Army.  I am the one that, even when I used to travel for work, will always be here to take care of my folks.  I am also the only one out of my siblings, that has paid back every dime they have ever lent me, I appreciate the things they have done for me and I respect the fact that it was meant as a temporary help and not a hand out.  My sister treats my parents like a bank that she only visits when she needs cash. I talk to both of them frequently, my mom daily and my dad every few days.  It also helps that I am the only one that has had my child around them his entire life.  With my brother always stationed away, the grand kids haven’t been around so much and my sister is just selfish and ……So ya, I am the favorite.

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