(Closed) Family Encouraged Cruel Wedding Pranks

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: Do you think the pranks went too far?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 242
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

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    @BlondeMissMolly:  LOL my thoughts exactly! Who the hell voted that this is okay?!

     

    You have plenty of opinions and advice already, all great btw, so I will keep mine to myself since I’ll just be repeating most of it anyhow. But damn wtf?????? I am so sorry this happened to your newly reno’d home! 🙁

     

    Post # 244
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    Helper bee

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    @Cummins59:  I’m so horrified by the extent that they went to vandalize your home! The fact that they have the nerve to call it a “prank” just adds insult to injury. I’m happy you took pictures, and it’s good you called the police, I would have done the same exact thing. Like other people said, get an estimate for the damage to the floor, have a cleaning company come in and clean, go get your clothes dry cleaned and pressed–and send them the bill.

     

    I’m wondering–how did they get into your house to begin with? Did they have a key, or did they break in?

    Post # 245
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @Cummins59:  Seriously??? How is this acceptable. Omg. What the f have you marred into. 

    Post # 246
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Cummins59:  This is actually really common to do in Belgium.  But I’d have a fit it it happend to me.  When our friends were getting married our group of friends decided to do a gift treasure hunt and we wanted to hide clues and gifts around the house, not mess it up, but the parents were VERY reluctant on giving us the keys 😛  Eventually we got it out of them but it took much persuasion since they were convinced we’d mess up their house.

    My DH told me that he knew a couple who came home to their house completly covered on the floor wall to wall with plastic cups filled with water.

    One of my friends came home to have all her furnuture tied up with ropes.  She ordered the guilty to clean it up and shamed them (she’s not Belgian and a tough cookie so that did not go down well with her DH’s friends)

    I told DH, that this tradition is not happening.

    But I have never heard of this hapening outside of Belgium.

    Post # 247
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    Busy bee

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    @Cummins59:  At least you got them to own up to it in writing! In case you change your mind about pressing charges and all. 

    Post # 248
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

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    @Cummins59:  Save those texts as admissions of guilt. I find it interesting they each texted an apology around the same time. Someone put them up to it. 

    What are you going to make them do? Anything? Clean? Pay for damage?

    Post # 249
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

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    @Cummins59:  I agree that you need to save those texts as evidence. I still think you should press charges. DEFINITELY don’t allow any of these nut jobs into your home to “help” you “clean up.” Ugh. Do it yourself and send them the bill for the materials, or hire a professional and send them the bill. I’m sooo sorry you’re dealing with this… what a nightmare.

    Post # 250
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2024

    @Cummins59 Any updates regarding this?

    Post # 251
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I would have been bawling my eyes out. How completely cruel!!

    Post # 252
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

    I think they went overboard on the prank.  They could have stopped with dishes on the floor with water and maybe TPing the yard or something.  I mean pranks can be funny, but that was extremely rude, unthoughtful and immature.  If my Fiance family or even my family gauged holes in my hardwood floor my Fiance and I would FLIP.  Our hardwood floor is so nice and my Fiance is one of the pickiest people I know when it comes to scratches and keeping things looking like new.  I think calling the cops was the right thing to do.  I’m glad you didn’t press charges you shouldn’t have had to but they need to know they can’t treat you like that.  I would make them pay for the damages as well.  They need to grow up and be held responsible for their actions.  I mean its seriously one thing to put shaving cream on your windows and some TP on the trees but wow…I’m at a loss for words.

    Post # 253
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @Cummins59:  I’m glad you gave us an update because I read this thread a month ago and it almost haunted me when I think about pranking. This is such an awful, horrible thing for a family to do and completely crossed the line. I’m surprised that No got 8 votes somehow let alone 1. I would have pressed charges like nobody’s business. I’m glad you are doing well and still have it documented, lots of good wishes to you from this Bee! 

    Post # 254
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

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    @Cummins59:  I posted just a bit ago but saw you were from Iowa? What part of Iowa are you from?  I’m in Iowa as well and I have NEVER heard of any Iowa/midwest traditions that include breaking into a family members house and trashing everything.  So sorry this happened to you.

    Post # 255
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I am SO SORRY this happened to you at the start of your lives together.
    I can only say that I hope karma will kick in for you, and you receive 3x the happiness that you deserve from going through this!!
    I am sending lots of love and good thoughts your way.

    But at the risk of sounding cruel, I’d press charges anyway.
    Because guess what, they earned it. You reap what you sow.
    Teach everyone there a lesson about respecting personal property.
    Guarenteed they’ll never do it again.

    But then again this is suburban NJ – no one here takes break-ins lightly.
    No one even does that kind of stuff here. You’d get arrested in a heartbeat!!

    And I’d stop talking to my in-laws until I received full, proper, sincere in-person apologies for destroying my house. Everyone’s an adult here, so why can’t they just suck it up and apologize properly? Ugh!

    This makes me especially mad because Fiance and I are both architects – you do not. mess. with. our. buildings.

    Post # 256
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    Honey Beekeeper

    Were they drunk?  I just can’t imagine this.   It is beyond disgusting and horrifying.  

    However, bringing in the law on family  members who, in their idiotic pea brain minds believed this was a prank, did elevate this to a  different place altogether.  The consequences from me would be severe, personal, and far reaching. However, I would have called the police or sued only as a last resort,  if and only if I had given them an opportunity to make their actions right and they refused to compensate us for the damage.  In other words, under the circumstances, I would have handled it privately. 

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