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You have plenty of opinions and advice already, all great btw, so I will keep mine to myself since I’ll just be repeating most of it anyhow. But damn wtf?????? I am so sorry this happened to your newly reno’d home! 🙁
MemberThank you all so much for your support. I really do appreciate it. I’m glad that everybody else in the world can see that isn’t funny. I feel like sending this thread to my inlaws to prove just how off their rockers they really are.
Update. In the following days I received TEXT “apologies”
20 Year Old Brother in Law – I would like to apologize for what I did. It was not meant to ruin you day or cause any damage, grief, or animosity. It was only meant to be a joke to welcome you into our family. I do belive that we went to far nobody new what to do so we just did anything we could think of and for that I am sorry.
These aren’t the words of a 20 year old that can’t pronounce competent. Apologies don’t count when your parents text them for you. Found out he was responsible for the carpet, PAM, urinating in the toilet bowl, moving furniture, etc.
18 Year Old Cousin – Hey you guys I’m really sorry about ur house we did not intend to Ruin anything.. and that was definatly not our idea.. we just wanted to have some fun.. please let me know if I need to help clean or anything… I. Gotta make it right with you both…I’m sorry ;(
This is the cousin that I’ve taken on shopping trips and am basically a mentor for. Nice half ass apology when she lives five minutes away and offered to clean up three days after the fact. She owned up to the dishes, flour, and taping things to the wall.
20 Year Old Cousin – Hey Kyleen and Travis. I just want to say how sorry I am for everything that went on the other night. Nothing at all was meant to hurt anything or more importantly you both. It was a stupid wedding prank I should have never been apart of. I realized this even before now. I’ve never been one to do this but it was even brought up and strongly suggested by several adults so it made it sound more ok. I am very sorry and will need to pay for what ever consequences may arise.
Almost believe this text. So if adults told you to jump into a shark tank you’d do it without thinking twice? Huh, you don’t even consider yourself an adult. That would explain some of your thought process. This was the cousin that declined the invite to the wedding then showed up and had the nerve to complain about food because she got a meal she didn’t like. Well, that would be why you RSVP so you can get a meal you want. Tried talking to her at the wedding and I’m surprised she wasn’t knocking out ceiling tiles her nose was so high in the air. Come to find out she was the one that trashed my closet and tampered with our printer cartridges.
DH and I have checked all of our vehicles (thankfully everything was safely in place) and plan on getting new locks on our house this weekend. Pretty pathetic that in rural Iowa we have to be worried about FAMILY breaking into our home more than we do random people. Really takes your sense of security away. Even before the wedding his family would go in streaks of being cordial to us than being bitter. I swear it depends on which way the wind blows. Shortly after we purchased our home (20 minutes from them) we pondered if that was really a good idea. At the time we both worked in the area now my job territory has shifted as has his. Hopefully when we get more paid off on the place moving will be an option. DH is definitely the one good egg in a rotten dozen. We still haven’t heard from the inlaws since DH sent Father-In-Law that text. In a sense I’m not surprised. I’d just love to go to their house when they’re at work and dump out all the contents of her closet and dresser drawers. I KNOW she would be crushed.
We can still press charges but at this point we got our ink cartridges to work and are going to work on our floors tomorrow and go from there. It’s all documented and we have pictures.
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I’m wondering–how did they get into your house to begin with? Did they have a key, or did they break in?
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Member@Cummins59: This is actually really common to do in Belgium. But I’d have a fit it it happend to me. When our friends were getting married our group of friends decided to do a gift treasure hunt and we wanted to hide clues and gifts around the house, not mess it up, but the parents were VERY reluctant on giving us the keys 😛 Eventually we got it out of them but it took much persuasion since they were convinced we’d mess up their house.
My DH told me that he knew a couple who came home to their house completly covered on the floor wall to wall with plastic cups filled with water.
One of my friends came home to have all her furnuture tied up with ropes. She ordered the guilty to clean it up and shamed them (she’s not Belgian and a tough cookie so that did not go down well with her DH’s friends)
I told DH, that this tradition is not happening.
But I have never heard of this hapening outside of Belgium.
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MemberWhat are you going to make them do? Anything? Clean? Pay for damage?
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MemberI would have been bawling my eyes out. How completely cruel!!
MemberI think they went overboard on the prank. They could have stopped with dishes on the floor with water and maybe TPing the yard or something. I mean pranks can be funny, but that was extremely rude, unthoughtful and immature. If my Fiance family or even my family gauged holes in my hardwood floor my Fiance and I would FLIP. Our hardwood floor is so nice and my Fiance is one of the pickiest people I know when it comes to scratches and keeping things looking like new. I think calling the cops was the right thing to do. I’m glad you didn’t press charges you shouldn’t have had to but they need to know they can’t treat you like that. I would make them pay for the damages as well. They need to grow up and be held responsible for their actions. I mean its seriously one thing to put shaving cream on your windows and some TP on the trees but wow…I’m at a loss for words.
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MemberI am SO SORRY this happened to you at the start of your lives together.
I can only say that I hope karma will kick in for you, and you receive 3x the happiness that you deserve from going through this!!
I am sending lots of love and good thoughts your way.
But at the risk of sounding cruel, I’d press charges anyway.
Because guess what, they earned it. You reap what you sow.
Teach everyone there a lesson about respecting personal property.
Guarenteed they’ll never do it again.
But then again this is suburban NJ – no one here takes break-ins lightly.
No one even does that kind of stuff here. You’d get arrested in a heartbeat!!
And I’d stop talking to my in-laws until I received full, proper, sincere in-person apologies for destroying my house. Everyone’s an adult here, so why can’t they just suck it up and apologize properly? Ugh!
This makes me especially mad because Fiance and I are both architects – you do not. mess. with. our. buildings.
MemberWere they drunk? I just can’t imagine this. It is beyond disgusting and horrifying.
However, bringing in the law on family members who, in their idiotic pea brain minds believed this was a prank, did elevate this to a different place altogether. The consequences from me would be severe, personal, and far reaching. However, I would have called the police or sued only as a last resort, if and only if I had given them an opportunity to make their actions right and they refused to compensate us for the damage. In other words, under the circumstances, I would have handled it privately.
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