(Closed) Family Encouraged Cruel Wedding Pranks

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: Do you think the pranks went too far?



  • Post # 258
    3414 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

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    @Cummins59:  I used to go up to Okaboji a lot when I was younger. My great grandparents used to own a farm ouside of there. So much fun! I’m in Waterloo which is where the University of Northern Iowa is.I’m originally from a small town 30 miles west called Parkersburg but moved here after I met my Fiance.

    Post # 259
    268 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

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    @Atalanta:  Apparently it happens here in the NL as well.  I never knew about it since we never played pranks on any of our friends who got married in the past 7 years I’ve been here, until I mentioned this thread to my hubby.  Apparently he told our masters of ceremony that under no circumstance was this happening.

    He did say that he was a witness for someone years ago and everyone wanted to prank them.  He absolutely wouldn’t let them do anything that it wouldn’t take 5 minutes to clean up because the couple would come home after the reception tired and would just want to go to bed.

    I think they ended up covering the bed with rose petals and then wrapping the matress with plastic wrap.

    The idea of the gift treasure hunt is cute, and non obtrusive.  The rose petals and plastic wrap takes 5 minutes to clean up.  Even putting postit notes all over the house or something easily reversable could be tolerated.  What happened to the OP? I’d be in jail for attempted murder more than likely.

    Post # 260
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    @ldyparadox99:  Yeah i imagine NL culture for that being similar to the Belgian one.  I agree that little pranks that don’t ruin anything can be fun.  I don’t know why people take it to such extreams since I’m sure they wouldn’t want it hapening to them.

    OP posted an update.  she shares a link just 2 posts above.

    Post # 261
    68 posts
    Worker bee

    I would have called the cops as well-made them clean the house.  Under my supervision, of course. And had them pay for damages.  And I would have pressed charges if I had to.

    Ignore your husband’s family.  As long as your husband supports you, what else matters?

    Post # 262
    797 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I think they 100% went too far.

    Pranks can evolve and get out of control quickly. This is sad to me.

    The extent of the damage is disheartening especially since this home is ‘your baby’ per say.


    I would say that at this stage, you have received apologies and promises to re-pay any damage. If this materializes, and they pay you, then that is all that I would do in your situation.

    Nothing will reimburse you for the drama, heartache or time that you spent repairing the damage/mess.

    Charging 20 year olds and 18 year olds is serious. They will have a record if found guilty. Personally, even though they acted well beyond the realm of acceptable or responsible, I just couldn’t do that to family.

    In this case, I would chalk it up to further proof that the family is nuts or not people I would like to associate with all the time. I realize you cannot just ‘cut off’ family with ease. However, they have shown what they can do and this is disrespectful. I would just use this as a learning lesson and leave it at that.

    Beyond monetary reparations and expressed apologies, I think charging them at this stage, if monetary compensation will cover it, is the best you could hope for.

    In response to the anticipated ‘you get what you deserve’ or ‘do the crime do the time’ comments, I just think that you need to think twice as to what you could be doing to someone’s future if they have apologized and also agreed to pay you back.

    I wish you all the best in your new marriage. I hope you find closure in this distressing event and find the peace to put it behind you.


    Post # 263
    916 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Cummins59:  what the actual f***. I probably would have had a meltdown if this happened to me and I would have thought I got vandalized.

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