- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
OK, so here is it in a nut shell… one of my mothers sisters is really mean, she hates my mother, and does not support my relationship, she infacts underminds it and disrespects my SO.
She has made my mother cry and isolated her form family events for years, she has hissy fits, she has caused huge blow ups at one of my cousins weddings in the past as well. She just does not filter her words at all. Most of our family avoids her and 2 people I really want there will no go if she does.
More then that she and my mom really don’t get along at all. You think at 53 she be over the sibling stuff but no.
Also she stresses out her borther (who took a week recovering form the last family event he went to with just her b.c. she picked a fight with my mom so she could not go)
She has admitted to not likeing my SO (he stands up to her when she is hurtful and no one else does) also disrespected my him and me many times. She even said this to me after not seeing me for a month and half when I was talking about wedding plans.
“Oh you to are still together?” my aunt said sarcastically
“Yes???” *i was thinking is she kidding me*
My mother pipes in “Of course they are they are engaged “
She laughs, “Well lets not get carried away with this engagment thing its not like she has not been engaged before, let just not get carried away.”
A little background when I was 21 I was engaged to a my bf of 2 years we were engaged for a year but broke it off b.c. we both realized we were 2 young and growing appart wanting different things in life (he didn’t want me to go to school he wanted me to move and have babies and I was not ready for that yet at 21 22 I wanted school and travel and learning who I was he knew who he was and wanted to get started on a family)
I am now 27 and with someone who i find to be the hightlight of my day, he makes me a better person and makes me try harder for my self and for him i feel blessed and lucky to have him in my life and couldn’t even think of me with someone else or wanting something other then to know I get to wake up every day with him and face anything good or bad with him too, so this comment was very hurtful to me.
I don’t want her at my wedding, my SO said he does not want her there but can understand if I need to invite her(however added if she rude he would uninvite her so it be on him not me so no one in my family can get upset with me)
… I am terrorfied she will make a huge blow up or be hurtful to my mom or something crazy and even if she behaves I will be on edge all day if she is there wondering what if
Do i have to invite her? and if I don’t how would I go about that