- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I need some advise on family friend vendor (sorry this is so long!!)
My family friend recently offered to do my makeup as wedding gift, which I was grateful as first since this will save me some $$ on getting wedding vendors. Our wedding is not until Spring next year, and I already had a few conversation exchanges with her. I was under the impression that she’d also do my hair, so I didn’t go out and find a vendor just do bridal hair. Although she offered this for free, I asked if she could also my mom’s and FMIL’s make up, since I think it’s wrong for her to travel all the way from Norcal and do my makeup for free.
After a few exchanges with her, at first she asked if I could pay for her flight (which is no problem on my part). Then she doesn’t want to fly anymore, she asked if we could get a night of accomendation for her since it’ll be in the wine country. I told her no problem, since we got extra rooms. Then she asked if she could come up with us on Friday night so she doesn’t have to wake up early Saturday to drive up, I said sure – I booked an extra room (She will share with the BMs). Since my mom knows that she will be doing our make up, she also wants her to attand the wedding which is now an extra guest headcount (which I’m fine with this since we only have about 120 people attending the wedding). However, now that’s she traveling the night before, we feel like we need to include her a the rehearsal dinner, since she will probably have nowhere to go for dinner. A little annoyed since Fi and I originally plan to only include direct family and bridal party at the rehearsal dinner.
I then asked her if she could do my hair, since now she’s staying the night before and should have time to do my hair (I’m also ok she needs to hire an assistant, and also pay her the service). She insists that she could only do the makeup (mine, my mom’s and FMIL). She doesn’t want to get an assistant because she thinks that for the price for the assistant, I can get a professional.
I REALLY don’t want to hire an extra vendor since it’s going to cost too much trying to find a vendor to JUST do bridal hair + travel. PLUS I’m already paying my friendto do my mom’s FMIL’s make up. I reached out to my hair dresser which does bridal hair, and he has a min. + travel. (They didn’t get back to me on travel fee yet)
There’s another vendor I really like, but sadly, she only does bridal packages (make up + hair) + travel fee. The second vendor only needs travel fee and doesn’t need a hotel, and she did a good job at my friend’s wedding.
I just feel like at this point it might be cheaper to get a vendor to do both makeup/hair, instead of two separate vendors since many vendors I searched for need a min. plus travel.
I thought my friend’s offer was super nice, but didn’t know at the end it’s causing me alot of stress and headache!! I booked ALL vendors at this point, so I really want to lock down someone to do bridal hair. AHHHH!!! 🙁
Here’s the question:
Should I still have my friend do my mom’s FMIL’s makeup, THEN I have the other vendor do my hair/makeup and the BMs hair?
Should I have my friend do all the makeup (me, my mom’s, FMIL), and try to find a vendor that only does hair? (Sadly this is the hard part. Many vendors prefer doing both instead of just hair/just makeup. I’m waiting for my hair dresser and his travel fee may be too expensive).