Post # 1
I’m feeling really badly about a situation and wondering if there’s anything I can do to rectify it. I have a family friend who blocked me on social media. He was never active on it to begin with, so I didn’t notice until last night when I tried sending him a message. (100% confirmed I was blocked).
Heres what happened. I got married last fall. Family friend (lets call him Josh) met at a girl (let’s call her Carrie) at a family wedding four months prior to ours.
Carrie is close friends with that bride- let’s call her Selena. Josh is Selena’s cousin. Carrie and Josh met at that wedding and stated a relationship.
Pretty soon the invitations to my wedding come out. Selena learned that her husband has to work, so she asked if she could bring her friend Carrie as a date. Mind you, Selena/Carrie live across the country, whereas Josh lives 45 minutes from me. In theory it should have worked out perfectly! I put Selena, Carrie, and Josh at a table together with other young friends and couples.
Josh’s parents were also invited but I decided to sit them with other – older – friends of theirs and Selena’s parents (as you recall Selena/Josh are cousins so their moms are sisters).
A few days before our wedding I learned that Carrie and Josh broke up. However, cross country flights had been purchased so Selena still brought Carrie as her date. I had plated entrees so moving them around on the seating chart would have involved changing three tables and ordering all new escort cards.
Essentially, Josh is furious that I sat him with Carrie and not with his parents. Apparently his parents are also upset with me that I did this.
I have not seen him since my wedding since he spent a year abroad. I now have to spend 5 days at a family retreat with him later this month. How can I rectify the situation? Was I totally in the wrong here?
Sorry for complex story that’s hard to follow.
Post # 2
No, you were not in the wrong. I’d just wait it out until you see him and take it from there. it’s been a year since this happened, if he’s that immature and ignores you/treats you badly when you see him then just do your best to ignore him. It wasn’t and isn’t your responsibility to keep track of people’s short lived relationships.
Post # 3
It’s a seating chart, my goodness. It’s not the bride’s job to know everyone’s business so that everyone can be seated accordingly without having to be around people they don’t like. Everyone in this situation needs to grow up.
Post # 4
I don’t think you are in the wrong. It was your wedding day and you can sit people where you want to. It’s not as if you made this seating plan after they broke up. He seems immature – hopefully he has calmed down by the time you guys meet.
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2018 - City, State
He should be over it now. It would have sucked but surely we’ve all been in an uncomfortable situation with an ex before no reason to block a friend over it. We can’t have everything the way we want it all the time.
How long did they need to be seated anyway? To eat and hear toast then everyone moves anyway
Post # 6
Men truly are the more rational, less emotional gender….. lol /s
He needs to put his big boy panties on and get over himself. You had no way of knowing they were gonna break up right before your wedding and thought you were doing them all a favour by seating them together. What a ridiculous thing to be upset about. Even more ridiculous to just block you and ignore you for like a year instead of simply saying “hey, I didn’t appreciate that..” and moving on.
You did nothing wrong. Let your guilt go.
Post # 7
Well he’s being a fucking child. He and his parents should be get over it. Not your fault they broke up right before. Would it have been nice to move him? Sure. But wouldn’t it have been more awkward to have a black sharpie lining out his name and adding it to another table. I bet he’d be mad about that too.
When you see him tell him to build a bridge.
Post # 8
Two sisters who apparently dont speak were sat together at my shower. They were pissed at my Mother-In-Law (the one sister’s friend) for arranging it as such but not too many ppl knew about the feud. It’s impossible to know the status of everyone’s relationships at any given time. He needs to let it go.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
How the hell are you suppose to know every detail about everybody’s life. This is why I am not having a seating chart. To much drama. They need to get over and grow up, it’s not high school.
Post # 10
Good Lord. I would have broken up with Josh too.
Post # 11
My god, it’s not your responsibilty to juggle the seating arrangement around just DAYS before the wedding.
And seriously, how bad could the break up be if they’d only been dating 4 months? They all need to grow up, it’s not middle school.
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2021 - British Columbia, Canada
LOL exactly what I was thinking! 😂
OP, you’re not in the wrong at all. Like other PP’s said, drama from short-lived relationships mere days before your wedding is not your problem.