Post # 1
So our small (75) wedding seems to be impossible and it looks like it will have to be more like 80. I know that doesn’t seem like much more… but we’re footing most of the bill ourselves. I was just informed by my Future Mother-In-Law that her best friend’s (who we def. planned on inviting) DIL (who we were not inviting) has offered to do the flowers at cost. Saves tons of money and time for me (I was praying I would be able to pull them all off myself!). But my issue is this: I have NEVER met her or her husband or their child. When we made our guest list we focused on inviting people we know as a couple and that would mean something to us as a couple. I don’t see how I can validate inviting this couple that I don’t know (even if it is a great help!) when we aren’t inviting anymore than 10-12 friends each.
So tell me… is the price/time saved worth it?
Post # 3
Their offer wasn’t contingent on getting an invite, right? B/c in that case you could just use the money you would have spent on their meals to pay for some flowers.
But either way, I’d be a little leary of trusting someone I didn’t know to give me such a huge discount on flowers. Money talks and if they’re not making any on this deal I would not be shocked to see a shoddy job or no flowers at all..
Post # 4
If you aren’t limited on space at your venue, but its more of a budget issue, can you look at how much it would cost to have the extra 3 guests there, versus how much she would save you to do your flowers. We are using our local supermarket florist to do our flowers and it is REALLY cheap. You may not be saving that much if she is only offering them “at cost”. It sounds like she maybe trying to start a business and this really benefits her and isn’t so much doing it as a favor to you.
We figured out the cost of every table of 8. We added in the food cost per person, the drink tab per person, the cost to rent the extra linens, chairs, and china, and the cost of the centerpiece. See if that helps. If it really isn’t much of a savings to you, then I would say don’t invite them, stick to your rules.