- 6 years ago
Hi Bee’s so I need some advice, just a warning this will be long.
Where I live house prices are going through the roof, its been my home town since I was born and would love to stay but houes prices are getting far too high so Fiance and I are looking to buy an hours drive away where you can get a lot more for your money, for example at the moment in my hometown with £350,000 ($500,000) you could possibly buy an ok 2 bed flat/apartment, however move an hour away and that money could easily get you a beautiful 4 bed house in a nice street with change left over.
We can just about afford £350,000 so thats our max, and we want to buy soon as prices everywhere around us are going up too so do not want to wait too long otherwise we will be priced out of the market all together.
Now my problem arises with the fact my grandmother has been guilting me a bit about planning to move so far away, she is in pretty bad health at the moment and I am the only family (that drives) that lives close enough to help her, like the other day she was really sick and couldn’t get down her stairs to get some water, I had to rush over before work otherwise she would have been trapped up stairs (she has had leg surgery so can’t walk very well) my father lives close by but doesn’t drive and he also is getting some health issues with his age.
My grandmother gave me a lot of money to put as a down payment/deposit on a house so I feel I should keep her feelings in mind, she said last weekend ‘With your fathers health the way it is I would prefer you and Fiance to stay in the area’
Now I feel bad, we cannot afford to buy in our area so we would need to continue renting (we currently rent from my mother at a reduced rate but she is selling next year) and push back our plans to buy for ourselves until god knows when.
My father told me its ridiculous and he is fine (lying) and I should move wherever I can because its important to get our foot on the property ladder while we can.
However I am worried because if I move my grandmother will have no one who can come to her in case of an emergency, she is a very (mentaly) independant and refuses to call the doctors when ill, and she would definitely refuse being put into residential care/have a carer.
I love my grandmother and she has helped me out so much financially and personally over my lifetime and I would hate to just leave her, however not leaving her would potentially mean I will struggle to get on the property ladder for years.
What would you do ?