Post # 1
I’m hoping writing this out will help me feel better…
We’re getting married this fall, and our families are super-excited. Especially my parents – I am their first child to get married, and my mom has a massive case of wedding fever!
Last week my dad got some devastating news from his doctor – he has a tumor and needs surgery. Because of the location of the mass the surgical procedure to remove it is pretty tricky (typically a 6-8 hour surgery with a stay in the intensive care unit), and there is a possibility that it cannot be removed.
I asked my parents if they want us to postpone the wedding – they said absolutely not, they want us to keep planning as if nothing is wrong. I’m thinking the wedding is something positive they can focus on while they’re dealing with my dad’s health issues. Unfortunately I’ve lost all motivation to plan the wedding – it just seems so unimportant compared to what my dad is going through. I guess I just need some reassurance that it’s ok to keep planning in the midst of a pretty crappy situation.
Thanks for listening…
Post # 3
@NalaBee: Awww. Big hugs!!! I know it’s hard to stay motivated, but I think exciting wedding plans are just what your parents need right now. Having a sick parent is awful, but knowing that you are bringing them joy and excitement is a wonderful thing.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
My family went through an extremely tough year while I was planning. Honestly, the wedding was the bright spot in an otherwise dreadful time. Keep planning, keep creating a reason for hope and joy. It just may save you in a way that you can’t even begin to understand at this time. Best wishes to your Dad for a speedy recovery.
Post # 5
Not only is it ok to keep planning, it is imperative that you do! Your father and mother need something to take their mind of the totally scary reality at hand, and having something to look forward to, makes all the difference for people in recovery! You plan darling, plan like you’ve never planned before! Your Mom & Dad are counting on you!
Post # 6
Thanks everyone. It’s hard to think ahead about the wedding when my mind keeps going back to my dad’s surgery. I work in healthcare, and am familiar with the surgery he’ll be having…it’s scary stuff to think about. I almost feel guilty even thinking about my wedding when he’s going through this.