Post # 1
About two weeks ago I was (completely unexpectedly) gifted a diamond that belonged to my great-grandmother. When I say completely unexpected I mean it–I didn’t even know the stone was in my grandmother’s possesion until it was placed in my hands. My boyfriend and I had already been ring shopping–and we were planning on picking a stone somewhere between 1.75-2.0 cts. The stone I’ve been given is an Old European cut that’s over 100 years old and has a tremendous amount of sentimental value. However, it’s 1.3 cts, which is singnifincantly smaller than I was planning on/hoping for.
I’m really having trouble deciding if I want to use this as my ering or opt for a larger stone. My boyfriend has promised me that if I stick with this one and decide down the line that I’m unhappy with it that he would be glad to get me a new stone–but I can’t imagine ever wanting to replace my original ering, it seems like it would be too special. I recognize this is a pretty personal matter and that in the end its up to me, but I would love some input from you ladies on what you think I should do. I’ve attached a picture of the stone (on my size 6.5 finger). If I keep it, I’ll be resetting it in a split shank similar to the Tiffany Lucida split.
Post # 2
Definitely the family heirloom! My grandmother has a stone that is similar in size and if it was available to me before I got engaged I would’ve taken it (and my stone in the size you are considering purchasing!). You can always get another ring to wear on your right hand later on down the line.
Post # 3
And the size looks perfect!
Post # 4
Now I love a big fat rock but the family heirloom looks sooo good on you, it is DEFINITELY the one I’d use especially if you are resetting it and making the setting your own. PS…I love a split shank 🙂
Post # 5
It’s still gigantic, I wouldn’t worry.
Post # 6
I’d use your family heirloom. It’s so nice to have that still in your family and it obviously means something to your grandmother to have held onto it this long, and give it to you. You could always spend more on the wedding band.
Post # 7
1.3 isnt small in any world.
I would take an heirloom OEC over a new stone ANYDAY.
Post # 8
smac423: I’ll make one more suggestion. I don’t know how you feel about halos, the setting you mentioned doesn’t seem to have a halo, just the split shank. As you know, halos can give the appearance of a larger stone. It’s something to consider. I am going to post a pic of my ring to maybe give you a better idea of what it could look like. My center stone is a 1.5 round so very similar to yours, I have a cushion halo and a split shank. A total carat weight of a little over 3.5 carats.
Sorry for the pic overload. I know you didn’t ask but I hate to see you not use a beautiful stone like that and I think you could recreate the look you are going for.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
The family heirloom, without a doubt.
Post # 10
Do what is going to make you happy. It is your Ering. Don’t just accept the ring because you don’t want to pass it up or hurt anyone’s feelings. You can even have a talk with grandma and tell her that you already picked out the Ering that you love. Who knows, maybe she’ll still want you to have it. But seriously, pick whichever is going to make you the happiest. Your Ering is about your engagement.
Post # 11
Definitely the family heirloom. thats what we did and not inly is it beautiful and sentimental bit we saved a bunch if money 🙂 plus, I would hate to crush my grandmother by not using it.
Post # 12
Krises: I love the suggestion of a right-hand ring in the future if I want one 🙂
Lily_of_the_valley: Your ring is absolutely beautiful, thank you for sharing and for the idea!! I myself am pretty neutral when it comes to halo/no halo, but my boyfriend actually doesn’t like halos so I’m going to sway his way on that. However, yaaay for split shanks! I’ve had my heart set on one for as long as I can remember.
hollyberry4: Can’t argue about the money thing–that’s one of the biggest appeals. Like I said this ring was a total surprise, so now my boyfriend has money put away that can go towards something else.
To everyone else, thank you for your input! It seems like a pretty clear concensus and it makes my decision easier 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
It’s a gorgeous stone and, as someone with my great-grandmother’s ring, I can tell you that it’s also so sweet to have that piece of family history on your hand!
And unless you’re rich and it doesn’t matter, saving the money for a 1.75-2 carat stone is a major win. Downpayment, retirement savings, kickass honeymoon, etc… I’d go heirloom stone for sure.
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2007 - City, State
smac423: I think the heirloom stone for sure! For one, it is an amazing size on your finger, and it is so beautiful!!! I say go for it.. What a nice stone.
Post # 15
That stone is gorgeous and by no means small. I think it would be so special to be able to wear that.